What would you do if your wedding gifts had the wrong name on them? Here’s our best advice:
My new husband and I were thrilled to receive a few personalized gifts for our wedding, but there’s one problem. Most of them are personalized with his last name, which I’m not taking. I know this is still a bit nontraditional, so we don’t know what to do. Help!
Dear New Bride,
Over the years we’ve heard from plenty of brides who aren’t taking their husbands’ last names, husbands who take the brides’ last name and any other combination you could imagine. In these cases, we think it’s best to ask yourself two important questions.
1. Will you use it anyway? Some things like personalized stationery you most certainly won’t be using, but other household items might not be so bad. If you’re likely to use it anyway, why not keep it?
2. What would you prefer if you were the gift giver? If Great Aunt Ruth is going to be mortally offended by your not taking her precious grand nephew’s name, it might be best to just thank her for the gift and then tuck it away in a cabinet. But in most cases, the gift giver would rather know about the mistake than see a thoughtful gift end up in your next garage sale.
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