October 15

Wedding Thank You Card Wording Etiquette

In an era when abbreviated text messages and casual emails are becoming more popular than formal hand-written notes, it can be surprisingly difficult to structure a well-worded thank you card. As awkward as it may be at first, don’t skip over this important step or you are likely to offend most of your well-meaning wedding guests.

Most wedding thank you cards are fairly small, so you won’t need to spend a lot of time writing in each one. The idea is to make each card seem heartfelt and personal to the recipient while keeping your message brief. Here are a few simple and easy suggestions for wedding thank you card wording that will help you create masterfully-written wedding thank you cards.

love and thanks wedding thank you card with pictures from the big day including the bride and groom and all the little details

Featured Wedding Thank You Card: Love and Thanks 

Wording for Cash Gifts

Whether someone gives you $10 or $1,000 for your wedding, it is important to send them heartfelt thanks for their generous gift. However, it is equally important to let them know that you appreciate their presence and support just as much or more than the cash. To make sure that your priorities are in the right order, spend your first paragraph thanking them for being there at such an important event, then use the second paragraph to thank them for their cash gift.

If you know how you plan to use the money, be sure to mention it in the card. People love it when their gifts are put to good use. Otherwise, just let the giver know that the money is very much appreciated and will help you and your spouse start your lives together.

Wording for Group Gifts

It can be a little tricky to send a thank you card for a gift that was given by an entire group. As tempting as it may be to minimize your work, don’t choose just one person in the group to send a thank you card to. It is best to send each member of the group an individual thank-you card in recognition of their contribution. Rather than being general and saying “thanks so much for the gift”, make your message more personal. For example, try something like this:

Dear Emily,

It meant so much to see you at the wedding. Thanks for making the effort to be there, and for bringing such a thoughtful gift. The quilt is beautiful and must have taken a lot of time and effort to create. We will treasure it and put it on display in our home. We are excited to one day be able to pass it on to our posterity.

Thanks again,

Jessica and Jason Bingham

This note is still short and will not take too much time to write, but it is heartfelt and specific to the recipient.

foil stamped wedding thank you card with four photos of the bride and groom

Featured Wedding Thank You Card: Touching Memories 

Writing to Friends and Family

When writing thank you cards to close friends and family, it is ok to be casual and humorous. Just remember that your family members deserve to know that they are sincerely appreciated, so don’t scrimp on the accolades. When writing your thank you notes, let each person know how much you appreciate their support during the wedding ceremony and during the preparations leading up to your big day. This is also an appropriate time to thank anyone who has been especially influential in your life and has helped you become the person you are today.

Writing to People You Don’t Know Well

When writing thank you cards to people you don’t know well, you may be stumped for conversation ideas. Don’t sweat it, though! Keep it short, simple and sincere. Thank them for making the effort to be there for your special day and for any gifts they may have brought. Begin and end your card with a more formal tone than you would use with close friends and family. Rather than greeting them by their first names, begin with the more formal “Dear Mr. and Mrs. Johnson”. You may choose to end the card with several different formal farewells, including “Sincerely”, “Best Wishes”, “With Gratitude”, “With Love”, etc.

pastel pink and foil gold wedding thank you card blank with names at the bottom

Featured Wedding Thank You Card: Effervescent Sparkle

Check, Then Double-Check the Name

One of the most important steps to sending off a thank you card comes after you have written the note. Nothing is more embarrassing than accidentally thanking someone for the wrong gift or stuffing a thank you card into an envelope addressed to the wrong person. Avoid this uncomfortable situation by checking, then double-checking to make sure the name on the card matches the name on the envelope.

With these tips in mind, you are now prepared to write brief, heartfelt thank you cards to all of your wedding guests.


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