September 16

Tips for Making Writing Thank You Cards Pain Free

Getting through that big stack of thank you cards may not be your way of having a good time, however it simply must be done—and I’d say the sooner the better. To help you through the process, here are a few tips on ways to make writing those wedding thank you cards pain free!

1. Writing a thank you card actually begins when you start sending out your invitations. Make sure you keep everyone’s contact information in a spreadsheet. Google has a document program that allows you to share files with others. This way, you and your significant other can keep track of your information in the same place.

2. Either mail out all of your thank you cards at the same time or do it by family. If not, you’ll run into the same issues as me and have some people calling to find out what happened to their thank you card since they heard someone else already got theirs.

3. Clarify any questions early! As you receive each gift, look for a card or gift tag. If there are presents without any name attached to it or the card says “From: The Smiths” and you have two relatives with the same name, clarify things with the gift givers right away.

4. Order extra thank you cards. I’ve made so many mistakes on my thank yous and had to throw them away. Having 25 extra ones really made a difference, especially since I didn’t account for cards sent to our vendors.

5. Do a little at a time. So that the task seems less daunting, commit to doing say five or 10 cards a day. Then, just push through the process. What I told my husband was that these people deserved a nice card for all of their efforts getting to our wedding and for their generous gifts. It was worth the bit of discomfort to get them a well-worth-the-wait thank you card!


6 thoughts on “Tips for Making Writing Thank You Cards Pain Free

  1. Thank You Notes Girl

    #3 is very important! Don’t let the “do it later” monster attack that one! It will snowball. A future mother-in-law or Maid of Honor can come in handy for help sorting out mixed up than yous, too. Absolutely get the extra cards. It cuts down on the worry of whether or not you’ll make a mistake and you can just write, write, write and get it done. Great post. Thank you. :)

    PS I put up sample wording and wedding poems on my My-Thank-You-Site.Com if it will help anyone.

  2. Sarah

    Totally agree, I have given wonderful wedding presents and have never received so much as a thank you! Get organized, buy your wedding stationery up front and be prepared.
    Don’t leave it too long as your guests will think you have forgotten.

  3. Andrea

    I can’t believe #2 in your recommendations. Do people really call to find out why they didn’t get a thank-you note? How bizarre! Not exactly in the spirit of giving, is it? Do you give a gift expecting a thank-you note?

  4. Deb Rivera

    Sending Thank You’s in appreciation for a gift received is not a fad or a trend, it is considered etiquette . And never goes out of style. Sometimes cards and presents get lost or misplaced and in some cases I have heard stolen. The Thank You card is proof it was received and appreciated. People spend their Time and Money to make someone else occasion special the least the recipient can do is send a Thank You.

  5. Julie

    I’ve ordered gifts online to be sent by the vendor to the happy couple, and not received a thank you – in one case, I happened to mention it to the bride’s mother(almost a year after the wedding) just to be sure that they received the gift and it turned out that they had NOT received the gift, so I had to follow up with the store. This is another good reason to ensure you send thank yous. About six months after another out of town wedding, I asked (I think diplomatically) whether the gift had been received, and specified why i was asking – in case the gift had not been received – and received a thank you card about 2 weeks later which really had a kind of resentful tone to it. Please remember if someone asks, it’s not necessarily because they’re questioning your manners (which are, in fact, questionable if you haven’t responded in 6 months or more) but because you may not have received the gift and thus believe that the guest didn’t send one. I was a little horrified to think that my cousin thought I had not sent her a gift, when in fact I had.

  6. Julie

    After my own wedding, over 30 years ago, my mother-in-law told me to give her the thank you cards for the people in Ireland who had given us gifts – through her, not sent directly to us. I had no way of getting their addresses as I didn’t know any of these people and my husband was very traditional and would have none of it, so I wrote my notes and sent them to my mother-in-law to send locally.
    Well, a few years later, when we were visiting her, we were going through a drawer of pictures, and what did I find?? My thank you cards. IN HER OLD JUNK DRAWER!! I was mortified. I know those people thought I simply had not bothered to thank them.
    So – make sure you get contact information yourself and take responsibility.


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