We know there are plenty of couples out there who have been married before, so we were happy to get this question from a second-time bride-to-be:
I am recently engaged, but I’ve been married once before. I’m so excited for my upcoming wedding and marriage, but sometimes I feel uncomfortable because I’ve done a lot of the pre-wedding hoopla before. What should I keep in mind as I plan my second wedding?
Thanks for your help,
Second Time Bride
Dear Second Time Bride,
Congratulations! We thrilled to hear that you’ve found someone special to spend your life with, and happy to help you nail down the details of your big day. Here’s some of our best advice for engaged couples who are planning a second wedding:
- DO make sure this celebration is different from your first, whether you wear a bright color, dress it up or make it a casual affair. Sit down with your fiance and make sure you plan the perfect wedding for you as a couple (and not just another iteration of the first time around).
- DO take your partner’s feelings into account. If this is a second wedding for you but a first wedding for your fiance, you might need to work a little harder to reach a compromise you’re both happy with.
- DON’T forget to celebrate! This is the start of something wonderful and unique, so try not to make comparisons with your first wedding. Let this celebration showcase your distinct sense of joy as you start this new journey together.
- DON’T sweat the small stuff. You’ve been through all of the drama before, and you probably learned that it’s much more important to focus on the marriage than the little details of your ceremony and reception. Don’t forget to stay focused on your relationship (and not just your napkin rings!).
Do you have any advice you’d share with couples for their second weddings? Leave us a comment and let us know!
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