October 8

Requesting Unwrapped Gifts: Today’s Diva Dish

We love brides and party planners who make a commitment to the environment! Here’s a letter from a reader who is doing just that:

Hi Divas!

Our friend would like guests to *not* wrap the gifts they bring to her wedding shower. Her reasoning is a neat idea because not only are we saving $6-10 on wrapping paper and a bow, but it’s saving all the paper and bows from being thrown right into the trash. Every little bit to help the environment, right?

Of course, it also avoids someone taping all those bows onto a paper plate for the bride-to-be to wear as an ever-so-tacky hat.

My question is, how do I eloquently state the request for no wrapping paper or bows on the wedding shower invitations?

Thanks for the advice,


Thank you for writing in Letitia! This is a great idea, and we’re more than happy to help find a solution. Our etiquette experts suggest one of these options for your bridal shower invitations:

[Honoree] requests unwrapped gifts.

Help save a tree and leave your gift unwrapped.

Help us go green in style and leave your gifts unwrapped.

No matter which one you choose, you’re sure to have an elegant design to match your equally elegant (and tacky-hat-free!) event. Thanks again!

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August 6

The Divorced Parents Dilemma: Today’s Diva Dish

Did your parents seem sane and well adjusted right up until you started the wedding planning process? This letter from a reader might just speak to you:

Dear Divas,

I’m currently planning my wedding, but everything seems to have ground to a halt over the invitation wording. My parents are divorced, and my mother remarried but my father has not. My mom wants to include her new husband’s name on the invitations, but my dad won’t hear of it. They are at a complete standstill!

Please help. Any advice you can offer will be greatly appreciated.


Under Invitation Arrest

The Divas’ Response:

You poor thing! It sounds like the stress of the wedding planning process is taking its toll already, but the good news is that you have some options:

  1. You can list your parents separately with their distinct last names. For instance, it’s perfectly acceptable to write, “Mr. Tom Smith and Mrs. Jane Jones…
  2. Most etiquette books will tell you to include your stepfather only if he had a hand in raising you. If you choose this option, the text would read, “Mr. Tom Smith and Mr. and Mrs. Dan and Jane Jones…
  3. Our personal favorite—simply write, “Together with their parents…

To be frank, if your parents can agree on so small a detail, you are completely justified in bypassing the situation entirely with the “Together with their parents…” option. You aren’t leaving anyone out, it’s perfectly acceptable in terms of etiquette and it might help diffuse and otherwise stressful scenario.

Thanks for writing in, and best of luck with the rest of your wedding planning!

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July 28

Diva Dish: Invitation Wording if You’re Already Married

We’ve been getting a lot of wedding invitation wording questions lately, so we’re dedicating today’s Dear Divas to the tricky topic.

Question: My fiancee and I are having two separate receptions due to the fact that she lives in one country and I in another.  Given geographies and differing religions we decided to have the main ceremony and reception in her country since she comes from a much larger family.  Here in the US we will have a small symbolic religious ceremony and a cocktail reception afterward as more of a “get to know the bride” type reception. Since we will already be married when we have the US reception, I’m not sure what to have written on the invitation.  Any suggestions? Thanks, Wondering Wanderer.

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Answer: Dear Wondering Wanderer,

Lucky you!  Two weddings to plan in two different countries!  Thankfully, the invitation wording is not very complicated in this situation.  Instead of listing your name and your fiancee’s maiden name, you’d simply list yourselves as Mr. and Mrs (insert married name here).  You’d also change the wording of what exactly you’re inviting your guests to attend.  Instead of saying the wedding of or the marriage of, you can say something like to recognize their marriage of or to celebrate their marriage

For example:

Mr. and Mrs. Wondering Wanderer request the pleasure of your company to celebrate their marriage.

Good luck and happy planning! Please remember that Wedding Paper Divas has designers on-call to help you customize your wedding stationery however you want.

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February 17

Diva Dish: Wedding Invitation Wording

Dear Divas,

I am getting ready to buy my invitations.  I’ve been doing a ton of research online and I’ve pieced together a loose outline of what I want my invitations to say.  Before I get them printed, though, I wanted to make sure that my wording followed standard invitation etiquette.  Are there any phrases or words I should avoid?  What should I do to make sure my invitations are worded correctly?

Wordy Wedding Planner


Dear Wordy Wedding Planner,

This is a great question, and you’ve come to the right place–after all, we are the Wedding Paper Divas!  Before I go in to details, be sure to check out the new Etiquette Tool available when you are ordering wedding invitations from Wedding Paper Divas.  This tool will make it easy for any bride or groom to word their invitations.  Simply input specific details like names, places, and times and we will generate the perfect wording for your invitation!

Aside from the etiquette tool, there are certain things you should definitely avoid when writing your own wording.  You mentioned that you searched online to piece together an outline of your wording–be careful!  Gathering wording from different sources often does not flow well when pieced together.  Levels of formality can change from sample to sample and you can end up with an invitation that changes tone throughout.

Also, try to avoid the use of confusing or vague pronouns, or changing the voice throughout your invitation.  (i.e. “We invite you to our wedding” or “Their wedding will be on…”).  Make sure that the people getting married are mentioned by name.  Only use “We” or “Us” if you are the hosts and you are having a more casual wedding.

Finally, use wording that makes it clear who is hosting the wedding.  Never say something like “Come join us for the marriage of celebration of John & Jill”. Who is us?  The bride and groom?  The parents of the bride?

As you can see from these tips, it’s important to maintain the voice and level of formailty throughout your wording and to make the hosts clear.  For more tips, check out our Wedding Invitation Etiquette Page, and happy planning!