We are so excited to share these expert wedding tips from Kristin of Bridentity Crisis!
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As wedding inspiration seems to be around every corner of the Internet, it can be difficult to plan a celebration that is reflective of you and your fiancé, and not filled with trends that are as likely to stay as relevant as Taylor’s #SwiftSquad (amiright?). So today I’m sharing 5 tips on how to make sure your wedding is true to the two of you.
1. Only include things you LOVE
When I was getting married, the decor detail of the moment was a Mason jar. Mason jars as vases, Mason jars as glasses, even Mason jars as chandeliers. So I thought to myself, “I guess we have to have Mason jars, even though they totally won’t fit in with the black tie art museum wedding we’re planning.” That’s when it hit me: I don’t like Mason jars and they have nothing to do with our vision. So why would I include them? It can be easy to be swayed by details you see on Pinterest boards and in Instagram photos, but you’ll end up being so much happier and less stressed if you cut the extras and keep only what you really love.
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2. Stop comparing your wedding to others. Theirs has nothing to do with yours.
I’ve heard versions of this quote by everyone from Jenna Lyons to Teddy Roosevelt, and while the language may be slightly different, the sentiment is the same. No two couples are alike, nor are their celebrations. So why would you compare your very personal and intimate wedding to someone else’s over-the-top affair? It’s like apples vs. oranges: each is great in its own way.
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3. Listen to your Significant Other’s opinions
I was lucky if my groom so much as looked in my direction when I asked his thoughts on save-the-dates or flowers. However when it came to picking the reception menu, he was the chief planner in charge. Even though he didn’t care about some of the details I felt were incredibly important, he cared a lot about the food, and thus I heeded his opinion. Remember: you don’t need to make every decision together but when your partner does speak up, it’s best to pay attention.
4. Think to yourself: What will I remember in 10 years?
Spoiler alert: not much. You probably won’t remember what font you used on the invitations or if your cake had one flavor or two (as I type this, I’m currently trying to remember what flavor ours was and have literally no idea, and our wedding was less than three years ago). But you will remember the laughs you shared about clumsy foxtrot steps you took during your couple’s dance lessons. So don’t agonize over the minutiae of every detail and instead enjoy the wedding planning journey. Simple, right?!
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5. Remember: There ARE no rules
And this might be the easiest way to plan a wedding that is authentic, not trendy: You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. Don’t like lengthy sit down dinners? Then serve your favorite food at stations instead. Hate awkward receptions where no one is dancing? Skip it and do something fun like karaoke! What makes a great wedding is when it feels like the couple. And if that means tacos and a dance party on the beach at sunset? Even better.
Kristin Joy is the founder of Bridentity Crisis, a humorous and helpful blog about how to navigate wedding stress while staying true to yourself. She lives with her husband, son, and two cats in Chicago and is dreaming of planning her second wedding to her same husband (that’s a thing, right?)