Wedding Guests

January 17

Ask Etta: A Plus One Dilemna

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.

Melissa Asks…

My friend and her boyfriend broke up recently and he was her plus one (sent our save the dates). Will she still expect to have that plus one or can I get away with only inviting her on the wedding invite?

Etta Says…

Well, this certainly is a tough one. It all really depends on how the save the date was addressed. If it was addressed to the friend by name and guest, then your friend may still expect to receive an invitation that allows for her to bring a guest, in all fairness. If the save-the-date was addressed to her boyfriend also by his name, then she will probably understand when the invitation is sent only addressed to her. The best suggestion I have would be to call the friend directly and explain the situation, and ask if she intends on bringing a guest. This will avoid any confusion when it comes time to addressing invitations.  Most likely the friend will completely understand limitations in space, budget, etc.

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July 9

Rant or Rave: Buying Off the Registry or Not?

From bed linens and kitchen towels to wine glasses, wall decor and even down to a doormat, wedding registries serve the ultimate wish list for a bride and groom. Aside from allowing couples to collectively outfit their new life, wedding registries exist to make guests’ lives easier. Plus, they have that added benefit of greatly reducing unwanted and duplicated gifts.

Bed sheets and vacuum cleaners may not be the most personal gifts, but chances are if they registered for it, they will still find it thoughtful. Still, we hear time and again stories of guests who chose to do their own thing when it comes to gift giving, rather than following a registry.

Should guests be entitled to buy gifts they choose or do you find that selfish? Have you strayed from a registry to buy the perfect gift for a friend? Do guests who choose not to buy off the registry make you want to rant or rave?