Wedding Attire

August 26

Should My Groomsmen Wear Bow Ties or Neck Ties?

We simply adore getting reader email, and this one from newly engaged reader Melissa that had us wondering how to make the decision between your groomsmen wearing bow ties or neck ties.

Melissa asked: My fiance and I are deciding whether to have our groomsmen wear bow ties or neck ties, I’d love to get your thoughts on this.

wedding groomsmen wearing green bow tiesPhotographer: Melanie Duerkopp | See more of this wedding here.

Wedding Paper Divas style & trend expert, Amber Harrison answers Melissa’s question below:

Personally, bow ties are a favorite but ultimately the decision has to match your collective style. Bow ties are great for very formal events or a playful affair that showcases your personalities throughout.

Here are a few questions that might help you make your decision:

  • What is the wedding venue? Would bow ties look out of place there?
  • Will your wedding be formal or a bit more casual or playful?
  • What is the style of your groom and of those in the wedding party? Would they feel comfortable in a bow tie?
  • Will bow ties help enhance the overall feel of your wedding or assist in the sharing of your personal love story?
  • And of course, do you love bow ties so much that you just HAVE to have them no matter what?

Best of luck and congratulations!!


September 9

Rant or Rave: Two Dresses for the Wedding

Finding your perfect wedding dress is one the biggest parts of planning your wedding. But what about finding two? There has been a big trend lately to wear one long dress for the ceremony and one shorter more cocktail-appropriate dress for the reception.

What do you think? Are two dresses just too much? Or should the bride wear a drop-dead gown for the first part and be a little more playful (and comfortable) for the later hours? Rant or rave!


September 2

Rant or Rave: Mother of the Bride Attire

Every bride wants her big day to be perfect. But what happens when her mother picks out a dress that doesn’t quite fit the bride’s vision of how her family and wedding party will look? After all, everyone will be looking at these pictures for years and years to come…

Do you break it to your mother nicely that this dress isn’t exactly what you had in mind? Or do you keep your mouth shut and let your mother have the final say in what she is going to wear? Rant or rave!


June 27

Notes on Wedding Attire: Today’s Diva Dish

If your wedding celebration is taking place in a non-traditional venue like a barn, winery or beach, it might be best to inform guests how to dress for the elements. What’s the best way to do so? Take this Wedding Paper Divas fan’s question, for instance…

We want to include a note about attire in our enclosure cards, but aren’t sure how to describe the feel. we’re getting married at a venue that has a grassy area for the ceremony and a barn with a cement floor for the reception/dancing. any suggestions? i don’t want to call it garden attire and we don’t want people showing up in jeans either. Thanks in advance! —Melissa B.

This is a great question, especially with outdoor wedding season upon us. We recommend using casual attire, but emphasizing the no jeans request. Describing the setting will also help guests get dressed appropriately. Something like: “Ceremony will be in a grassy area and reception will follow in the barn. Please dress smart casual with comfortable shoes. Please no jeans.” For more attire tips and tricks, check out this great cheat sheet from The Knot.

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to and we’ll post an answer for you.


October 31

DIY Divas: Hair Pieces

Happy Halloween from DIY Divas!  Now, on to the fun.

This week we are featuring DIY Hair pieces, which can cost upwards of $200 if you purchase them from a retailer.  Rachel, our ever-crafty coworker, has found a way to completely bypass the bridal boutique and instead make gorgeous, chic hairpieces that are perfect for a bridesmaid or even a bride!

Step 1: Head to your nearest craft store and peruse the faux flowers section.  You’ll be surprised at how realistic and beautiful many of them are.  Once you’ve found the perfect flower, you’ll also need a hot glue gun, a small square of felt cut into a circle with a hole in it, and a little clip (also available at any craft store).  You can also purchase any sort of adornments to add to your flower, such as feathers, lace or jewels.

Step 2:  Open the clip and slide it through the hole in the felt.  This will be the back of the hair piece where you’ll attach it to your hair.

Step 3:  Place a dollop of hot glue on the back of the felt between the clip and the felt.  This assures that the clip will stay on and not detach in the middle of your wedding!

Step 4: Take the hot glue gun and use it to attach your flower as well as any additional accessories you’ve purchased to your felt backing.

Step 5:  Finally!  You have a beautiful hair piece worthy of a princess.  I love the look of this one with the exotic feathers.  It’s very vintage and modern at the same time.


August 22

What to Wear, What Not to Wear?

Whenever I get an invitation to a wedding, the first thing that pops into my mind is, “What should I wear?”  When thinking about this, you have to take into consideration so many things: is the wedding during the day or at night? Is it formal or semi-formal? Are there any cultural traditions that might offend someone? The whole process can be pretty stressful for a wedding guest.

So, I was excited when I discovered The Knot’s Wedding Guest Attire Cheat Sheet.  This is a great guide for someone who is trying to determine the meaning of terms like white tie, beach formal and dressy casual.

Also, to avoid any major faux paus check out the article that was featured today on Yahoo’s homepage: “9 Things You Should Never Wear to a Wedding.” Below are just a few of the recommendations that caught our attention:

1. White is Not Right – It is still the case that only the bride should be dressed in white.  Period.

2. Limit the Sparkle – The article recommends that you avoid anything lame, sequined or glittery. Let the bride shine at her own event.

3. Jeans are Not Dressy Under any Circumstances – Forgo casual fare unless the invitation specifies that the event is casual.  This also goes for engagement parties–never wear jeans to event like this. It is just a big no-no.