April 17

Ask Etta: What to Get, Send and When

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.

Casey Asks…

My fiance and I are putting together our to-do list for the big day. When does stationery shopping start and how much of a heads up do our guests need?

Etta Says…

This handy checklist will keep you on track with all your correspondence. Here’s what you need to get, send and when:

8 Months

Create your wedding website (good news… it’s absolutely free!)

Order your save the date

6 Months

Send your save the date

Order your wedding invitations with response cards, enclosure cards and thank you cards

4 Months

Order thank you cards for your shower

Get your guest list organized and envelopes ready to be addressed

2 Months

Mail your invitations (and prepare for the oohs and ahhs)

Order your programs, menus and place cards

1 Month

Order your favors or DIY them

Post Wedding

Send your thank you cards within two weeks of returning from the honeymoon

Have an etiquette question for Etta? Email us at blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and she’ll post an answer for you.


May 28

Your Wedding Stationery Checklist

Planning a wedding can feel overwhelming, but don’t worry! Wedding Paper Divas is here to help. Not only do we make it easy to personalize the elegant wedding invitations of your dreams, but we’re also happy to help you with style, etiquette, wording and more.

If you’re wondering when you should send out all of your wedding stationery from save the date cards to announcements, keep this simple timeline handy to make sure you’re on top of it all:

Save the Date Cards

  • Order: Seven or more months in advance
  • Mail: Six months ahead of time, or earlier for destination weddings or out of town guests

Wedding Invitations

  • Order: Four to six months in advance
  • Mail: Two to four months before your wedding date

Thank You Cards

  • Order: When you order wedding invitations
  • Mail: Within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon


  • Order: When you order wedding invitations
  • Mail: Address the envelopes two weeks before your wedding, then ask your maid of honor to drop them in the mail the day after your wedding

Plus, Don’t Forget Your Programs, Place Cards, Menus and Accessories!

  • Order these items one to two months in advance of your big day

If you have any questions about your wedding stationery, feel free to contact us by email, phone or Live Chat. We’re always thrilled to hear from you!

Have a great weekend, and happy planning from all of us at Wedding Paper Divas!


April 27

How to Throw a Bridal Shower

Need some tips on how to throw the perfect bridal shower for your BFF, sister or friend? Don’t worry. Guest blogger Carey from Dessy Group’s Bridesmaid Blog is here to help!

As a bridesmaid, one of your most important and fun tasks is throwing the bridal shower. You and the other bridesmaids get to throw one big, fun and memorable party! You can keep it simple and supply some favorite foods and fun games, or you can make it a theme. A wine and cheese party anyone? Pick your favorite bottles paired with amazing cheeses, crackers and fruit. You could go for a 50s or 80s retro-style theme, or even a cookie theme where each guest brings their favorite homemade cookies with recipe and varying utensils to help outfit the couple’s kitchen. The possibilities are endless!

Before the fun day begins there are a few things to remember. Don’t forget to keep a general timeline in order for all to run smoothly:

Two months before the shower:

  • Set the time and date with the Bride-to-Be. The shower should be scheduled within a month or two of the actual wedding date.
  • Prepare a guest list with the bride and groom’s help.
  • Figure out a budget. Will the bride’s family be pitching in? If not, the costs can be divided evenly amongst all of the bridesmaids.
  • If you’ll be using a restaurant or other venue now is a good time to reserve the space.
  • Decide if you would like a theme for the shower. If so, begin preparing for decorations, food, games, gifts etc.

One month before the shower:

  • Mail out the invitations.
  • Plan a menu and figure out who will bring what food and supplies.
  • Decide on games and prizes and purchase them.
  • Ask the bride where she is registered so guests can bring the much needed gifts!

Two weeks before the shower:

  • Find and wrap your gift to the bride-to-be.
  • Prepare shopping list including all decorations.
  • Confirm reservations or if you’re having the shower at home, make sure you have all necessary utensils, tables, chairs, etc.
  • Arrange for someone to videotape and photograph the shower.
  • Purchase thank you cards. On the day of the shower have each guest write their name and address on an envelope. This will make it easy for the bride to send out her thanks after the shower.

The day of the shower:

  • Decorate! This will be a fun day with you and the other bridesmaids-enjoy.
  • Pick up or prepare food.
  • Reconfirm any reservations and delegated responsibilities.
  • Get ready to have a fun and memorable day!


Meet Carey

Carey Gordon, MBA, is a blogger for The Dessy Group. Originally from the Midwest, her work in Marketing and Communications has taken her to positions abroad in both the UK and Cyprus. She is currently based in Berkeley, CA.