Thank You Notes

October 16

Wedding Thank You Wording Advice

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Happy Friday all-today we have Wedding Paper Divas style & trend expert, Amber Harrison on our wedding blog talking all things wedding thank you wording. It can be tough to know what to write and how to write it when thanking your wedding guests. With tips that include speaking from the heart and making sure that all your thank you’s are hand written, you won’t want to miss this episode of Small Talk Big Day. Amber is our resident authority on the latest wedding trends and etiquette guidelines. She combines tradition, personal style and the hottest trends to help each couple celebrate their unique love story on their big day.

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We all know that thank you notes are a must. You’ve got your pretty stationery, a nice pen and your stamps all ready to go, but what’s next? It can be hard to know exactly what to write in your wedding thank yous. So today on Small Talk Big Day, I’m gonna help write the perfect thank you note.

First, be specific about the gift they gave you and mention it by name.

Second, add a personal detail and mention how you might use the gift.

Third, show your affection. You’re not just thanking them for a gift but for supporting you during such an important time.

Avoid digital thank you’s. I’m sorry to tell you but emailing your thanks is not an option. They all need to be written by hand, envelopes too. Taking the time to carefully hand write each note goes a long way to show your gratitude. And trust me, no one cares if your hand writing is a disaster. It’s the thought of the note that counts.

Now that you have a few tools under your belt, it’s time to get busy.foil gold written thank you note for wedding on the counter with other things in the background

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June 19

Ask Etta: Wedding Thank You Notes Timeline

Samantha asks…

What is the proper etiquette for sending out thank you cards? My bridesmaids are hosting a bridal shower for me just one month before my wedding date. Along with that, wedding gifts have already started to arrive! I know I am going to be swamped with wedding tasks in the coming weeks, and will have little time for thank you cards.

When do I need to send my thank you notes? Do you have any advice for making this to-do list item a little easier?

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Etta says…

This is a great question, Samantha. Writing thank you cards has become a dreaded task for many brides, when it really should be a pleasant activity.

First and foremost, it’s important to remember why you are writing these thank you notes – because you are surrounded by loving and caring individuals. Beyond the gifts they may give, you are really expressing thanks for your friends and family who have taken time out of their schedules (and, quite often, have spent money and effort to travel) to celebrate in your special day. Looking at your ever-growing thank you list in this mindset may help bring some joy to the task!

Wedding Paper Divas Thank You Card -- Blissful Banner

I recommend sending thank you notes within two weeks of a bridal shower. Usually, your bridal shower is much smaller than your wedding guest list, so it will take less time to complete the thank you notes.

Proper etiquette for weddings is to send a thank you note within two months of your wedding.  But, thank you cards for your wedding gifts may be written as soon as they arrive. With wedding registries so prevalent, many modern brides receive the majority of their gifts in the weeks leading up to their wedding date – and it sounds like you are no exception. This is the perfect opportunity to get a head start on your thank you notes.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Celebrated Scrolls

If you would prefer to send them after the wedding, photo thank you notes are a great option! Be sure to ask your photographer to send a few select photos immediately after the wedding, so you can order your thank you notes, write and address, and mail out to your guests in a timely manner.

I hope this helps!

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April 9

Ask Etta: Sending Late Wedding Thank You Cards

Jill asks…

I had great plans of creating DIY thank you cards personalized for each of my guests, including a photo of myself, my husband, and the guest at our wedding reception. But when we returned home from our honeymoon, it was a whirlwind of moving into a new house, catching up on two weeks of missed work, and settling in to our new married life. Somehow, four months have passed, and not a single thank you note has been sent. Am I too late? Would it be better to just not send a thank you card at all, at this point?

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Etta says…

While the proper time frame for a wedding thank you note is within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon, it is never too late to send a thank you card. Any guest that truly appreciates receiving a thank you card will know you haven’t sent one yet, and will be happy to find one in the mail (even if it is four months late). Remember, something is better than nothing, in this case. As for your other guests, if they haven’t realized your thank you cards are late, it’s likely that they don’t know the proper etiquette timeframe. Therefore, your note will be a lovely surprise for them.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Thankful Thoughts

The inclusion of a photo is a thoughtful addition to a thank you card, but individual photos can be time consuming. Choose your favorite photo from your wedding day of you and your groom, and use the same image for all cards to help manage your time effectively.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Elegant Etching

If you need help on how to craft the perfect thank you card, I have tackled that question here: The Golden Rules of Gratitude.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Well of Love

I hope this helps, Jill!


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March 12

Miss to Mrs.

It’s a long time tradition for women to change their last name when they get married, most commonly taking the husband’s last name. It is definitely a personal choice and couples are increasingly finding creative ways to go about changing or combining last names. Whatever you and your husband decide to do after you are officially married, there are certain key documents you will need to update with your new last name, including your social security card, driver’s license, passport, credit cards etc. Keep in mind that you will need to show a certified copy of your marriage license on every name changing occasion. Besides the legalities, there are other printed materials you will need to update as well, such as stationery. Picking out new designs for note cards, address labels, moving announcements and business cards is the fun part! Are you considering changing your name or will you be keeping your maiden name? Leave a comment below!


August 7

The Extra-Thank-You-Note Dilemma

One of our chic and stylish staffers here at Wedding Paper Divas recently returned from her gorgeous destination wedding in Hawaii. Upon her return, she sent out all her thank you cards in prompt diva style, but she ended up with a stack of leftover thank you notes that were simply too cute to toss.

Her solution was to turn all those leftover notes into lovely little recipe cards! She loves to bake and is a Food Network addict, so she started jotting down her favorite recipes on the blank notes and handing them out to family and friends. They are a fun, fashionable and highly useful way to get mileage out of your wedding stationery long after your nuptials have passed.

What did you do with your leftover thank you cards?


August 5

Bring Something Fun to the Table

Looking for a fun and inexpensive way to entertain your guests during lulls in the reception? Just stock your reception tables with these charming little activities that are sure to suit guests of any age!

One classic way to get your guests involved in the reception is to place disposable cameras at each table and encourage everyone to take pictures throughout the evening. Once you develop the film, you will have priceless photos of your friends and family that you can either incorporate into a scrapbook or wedding album, or slip into your thank you notes to remind everyone of all the fun they had on your big day.

Another great way to entertain your guests at their tables is with a crossword puzzle about you. Sites like make it easy to build your own free crossword puzzle, which you can then print and set out at each table.

You can even set out lottery tickets at each table as gifts and announce the winning numbers, or use stacks of blank stationery tied with ribbons as a way to encourage guests to write notes to neighboring tables or to the newlywed couple.

There are so many ways to add a little flair to your table settings. If you have any to share with the wedding community, let us know!