The Wedding Paper Divas headquarters is bustling with bridesmaids helping their friends, siblings and sorority sisters plan their weddings. These are their confessions…
My Dearest Bride,
I really would love for all your closest friends to be able to attend the fabulous bridal shower I’m planning! At the same time, I would love to make sure that I’m aware of how many individuals I will be accommodating. How embarrassing for a guest to show up and find that the chairs are in fact numbered, and each setting does have a place card, and there isn’t one for them?
Though it’s not my job to hunt people down and ask them for a “yes” or “no” on their attendance, neither is it yours. I understand that I don’t know some of the guests who are invited, but they are adults and I am pretty sure they are capable of replying by the date listed on the invite, without your encouragement. I just want you to come to the shower and enjoy, not worry about the little details of monitoring the guestlist!
When it comes down to the last minute, I can always check in with a guest who hasn’t responded. But it’s my headache, not yours.
In general, when you send out wedding invitations, you have a pretty good idea of who will be RSVPing “Yes” and who will be sending their regrets. Sometimes, however, those reception cards can be a bit of a shocker.
We’ve heard stories about close friends declining invitations with little to no excuse, leaving the engaged couple confused to say the least. This type of scenario has us wondering—if a declined invitation hurts your feelings or leaves you baffled, is it appropriate to speak up? Can you ask why a guest isn’t attending your celebration?
What’s the best way to handle such a tricky situation? Have you ever declined a wedding invitation from a close friend? Do confrontations over declined invitations make you want to rant or rave?