While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.
I am coordinating my niece’s wedding. Her fiance lives out of town and she is traveling a lot for her work. Is it okay to have response cards sent directly to me? If so, what address should used as the return address on the invitation?
Plan easy, Megan, we see this question all the time. It is certainly okay (common, even) to have the response cards sent directly to you—you’re the one coordinating all the details, after all. And if you’re in charge of keeping tabs on the guest list, we recommend you use your address on the invitation envelopes as well. This way, you can track any that don’t get delivered properly.
Two things to also note…
1. Customers typically leave a name off of the invitation return address, so the wedding guests won’t necessarily know it’s coming from you (if you’re concerned at all about that).
2. For the response card’s return address, it is customary to have at least a last name on the envelope.
While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma. Starting with this one…
Blake H. Asks…
My fiancé and I will only be giving guests an option to indicate that they’d like a vegetarian entree since we are not sure what type of meal we’ll be serving just yet (budget dictates that if fewer people RSVP yes, we can serve filet; whereas if we get have more people responding yes, we may have to serve chicken). Can you suggest how to appropriately word this on the response card?
This one is definitely tricky! My suggestion would be to omit meal options on the response card altogether, and instead add the following:
“Please list any dietary restrictions”like so:
This way, you’ll be aware of all your vegetarians/vegans/non-red-meat-eaters/allergies/pescatarians/only-chicken-eaters (you get the point). Since it’s not required to give guests a choice on their meal, I recommend this route versus explaining that their meal choice may change. If you want to get really specific, you can add this information to your wedding website (if you have one), explaining that there will be a plated entrée served but it’s subject to change based upon dietary requests and venue availability.
Wedding Paper Divas is bursting with staff grooms- and brides-to-be who are currently planning their weddings. We’re happy to share their stories with you as a part of this fun feature!
Last month, Chris and I had the impossible task of choosing wedding invitations. It’s great to work at a stationery company and have hundreds of invitation choices at my fingertips, but our indecisiveness went into overdrive. We probably ordered 20 samples!
We knew we wanted something to match our retro and rustic wedding theme, but also set the tone for the day. Our wedding won’t be traditional at all, so we felt it needed to be portrayed in our invites. And most importantly, we had to love them! After all the back and forth, we went back to our very first choice: Rustic Jar.
Here’s our personalized invite!
More than anything, we want our wedding to be fun and our guests to be excited to be there. I saw a great idea on one of our sample response cards: below the food choices it asked for the guests to choose a song they want to hear. Not only does it help us come up with a good song request list for the DJ, but it’ll get the guests excited to hear their requests the day-of. So far, nearly every guest has added a song—some even wrote a long list on the back of the card! It’s making the response cards much more fun to open too. The highlight so far has been from my good guy friend who requested “I Want to Dance with Somebody” by Whitney Houston. Who knew guys loved Whitney too!?
Here’s our response card. We wrote, “Please list a song that is sure to get your toes tappin.’”
How did you make your wedding invites unique?
Melissa and Chris met in high school almost 14 years ago. They both ended up living in San Francisco after college and became best friends. After years and years of their friends telling them they were meant to be together, one Halloween they gave it a shot and have been together ever since. So, I guess guys and girls can’t be friends after all!
Melissa and Chris are getting married on October 7, 2011 at the SmogShoppe in LA.
Although some wedding etiquette questions can be tricky, we’re true pros when it comes to wedding stationery questions. Take this inquiry, for instance:
I might be a stationery newbie, but I’m totally perplexed by what goes on enclosure cards. What is the proper etiquette there?
Don’t worry—our etiquette experts are more than happy to help! Here’s a breakdown of basic wedding enclosure card etiquette:
Always send response cards inside the invitation envelope with stamps affixed to self-addressed return envelopes. This helps to ensure that you’ll have an accurate count of the number of guests expected to attend. Response cards can also include the guests’ meal preferences.
Send wedding reception cards if your reception information won’t fit on the invitation itself. Wedding reception cards also come in handy if you plan to invite more guests to the ceremony than the reception. In this case, insert the reception cards only into the invitations of the guests invited to the reception.
Maps and Directions Cards
These items should also be printed and included if some guests aren’t as familiar with the area in which you’re holding your ceremony. If you choose to print them, however, they should be included in every invitation suite and not just distributed to a few guests.
We hope this helps make your enclosure card shopping a little easier. Check out our selection of wedding stationery suites to find gorgeous invitations with all of the matching components you’ll need, and don’t hesitate to ask if you have any more questions!
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