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April 13

Bride’s Diary: Registry Madness!

Wedding Paper Divas is bursting with staff grooms and brides-to-be who are currently planning their weddings. We’re happy to share their stories with you as a part of this fun feature!

It is now five months before the wedding, and I am now thinking all about my wedding registry. My fiancé David and I have lived together for over six years, so honestly, what do we need? A new set of dishes perhaps? Bedding? A new coffee table? Sounds good to me!

We have decided to register at Pottery Barn, Macy’s and Target. I’m not going to lie, I have my eye on several things.  Here is a sneak peek into my registry…

I am registering for that fabulous vintage trunk from Pottery Barn which will be used either as a coffee table or at the foot of our bed:

My fiancé David and I are big entertainers, so we thought the platter below from Pottery barn was also a must-have!

Here are two of my absolute faves that we registered for from Target:

Hope you enjoyed my little preview, and I can’t wait to check in again on my wedding planning soon!

Meet Alison

Alison met David over six years ago while attending the University of Oregon. Alison and David are grateful for everything that they have gone through together while dating, since it has made them stronger and molded them into the couple that they are today.

David proposed to Alison at the Palace of Fine Arts in San Francisco and they are excited to get married August 25, 2012 in Atherton, CA.


February 28

Ask Etta: Sending Gifts for a Bridal Shower You Can’t Attend?

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.

Angela Asks…

I’m not able to make it to my cousin’s bridal shower. Should I still send a gift?

Etta Says…

While gift giving is never a requirement, bridal showers are the only pre-wedding event where gifts are typically expected. You should never feel obligated to send a gift if you can’t attend, but it is a nice gesture if you’re able to do so—and one the bride will truly appreciate!


October 3

Let the Registry Begin: Bride’s Diary

Wedding Paper Divas is bursting with staff grooms- and brides-to-be who are currently planning their weddings. We’re happy to share their stories with you as a part of this fun feature!

Over the weekend Adam and I devoted an afternoon to start our registry. I don’t know why, but I was very anxious to do this. I was already overwhelmed way before we started. That’s when I started researching and asking my social networks what advice they had for completing the registry.

I first researched where the best places were to register and found a very helpful article on Brides.com that broke down the top 25 places to register, to the type of people that should register at a certain place—and even listed out the perks you get for going with their store. We decided to go with Crate & Barrel because they had a lot of pieces and kitchen accessories we really liked at a reasonable price.

And here are some of the items we selected:

What are some must-have pieces for your registry?

We also wanted items that weren’t offered at Crate & Barrel so we decided to use MyRegistry.com where you can go to any website and select an item and it puts it all on one master list to make it easier for your family and friends to find and order.

Honeyfund.com is also a great registry to add things for your honeymoon that your guests can purchase for you. We added things such as tickets to museums and a car ride to the hotel from the airport, which will come in handy since we will be coming off of a long flight to Italy and won’t really want to find transportation once we land.

The best part about all these registries is that you can easily go in and add and remove items. There is no need to stress about this process, just do your research and come with a list of must-have items… but be open to adding other things that will help you as you become newlyweds!

Meet Ashley

Ashley and Adam met a little over three years ago when they were both out with friends at a bar. They spent the night talking about sports and dealing with other friends’ drama. A few days later they went on their first date and have been inseparable since. Three years later, Adam popped the question to a very surprised Ashley!

Ashley and Adam are getting married April 28, 2012 at Ralston Hall in Belmont, CA.


September 19

Where Can I Put My Registry Cards? Today’s Diva Dish

We’ve been getting a lot of registry questions lately, so we’re dedicating today’s Diva Dish to the tricky topic. Take this Facebook fan’s question for instance…

Where (if anywhere?) can I put my registry cards?


Many different resources will suggest that including registry information with your wedding invitations is less than ideal. If possible, we suggest looking at other options for letting guests know where you are registered, merely to avoid having guests feel like more importance is placed on the gift-receiving rather than the event itself. Need a couple ideas? We recommend the following:

  • Set up a wedding website and include an enclosure card with the web address (or put it on the invitation if needed) with a registry page. This way, guests will automatically know to check out the site for gift ideas—and no registry information will be with the invite at all.
  • Have your maid of honor and best man spread the word. He or she (or both!) can include the information on shower invitations and share it by word of mouth to make sure the registries get circulated.

Still, for many couples, registry cards are the easiest option. And since there are more and more efforts being made to condense paper items down and be more environmentally friendly, many will argue that this is an appropriate way to share registry information. If you decide to include a registry card with your wedding invitations, make sure it is behind the invitation itself—and as understated as possible.

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.


August 19

Rant or Rave: Giving Money as a Wedding Gift

There are lots of opinions and advice on etiquette when it comes to giving wedding gifts (and getting them). We thought we’d get your thoughts on giving cash for weddings.

How do you feel about giving cash as a gift? Some can’t get past the thought that it’s tacky… others want their hard-earned money to be as useful as it can be. Would you rather pick out a thoughtful gift for the couple or give them money and let them use it however they see fit? Rant or rave!


January 24

Preventing Random Gifts: Today’s Diva Dish

Almost any bride will tell you that random gifts (like Aunt Louise’s infamous handmade paper mache coasters) are practically inevitable, but there are a few things you can do to help direct your guests’ gift purchases a little more carefully. Here’s our best advice for a reader who wrote in asking:

Dear Divas,

I love my extended family, but they all have styles that are VERY different than mine and my fiance’s. I’m worried they are all going to shop off the registry, and I don’t want to hurt their feelings if they send us something we don’t like. What advice do you have for handling this sort of situation?


Guilty But Grateful

Dear Guilty,

Don’t worry—this is what gift registries are for! And there are a few things you can do when you create your registries to help ensure that everyone can find something:

  • Make sure there are enough items on your registry for all of the people on your guest list (not just the ones who RSVP yes!)
  • Pay attention to price points. If people can’t find something within their price range, they’re sure to go off the grid…
  • If you want cash, register for gift cards, a honeymoon registry or some other tangible way for people to give it to you.

If you do end up with random gifts, don’t feel guilty returning them. People understand that weddings are expensive, and we’re sure they’d want you to enjoy their gesture. If you can’t return them to major department stores, you can keep the gifts and enjoy the funny stories behind them or donate them to charity—whatever makes you happy and causes you less stress!

What advice would you give to a bride in this situation? Leave us a comment and let us know!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you!


October 12

Wedding Registry Eye Candy

With all the fall colors and flavors premiering at the farmers’ market lately, I find myself drawn to shiny new kitchen things everywhere I go. This cooking-friendly eye candy will pair wonderfully with your wedding registry!

Delicious, don’t you think?

KitchenAid Professional 600 Series Copper Mixer

Martha Stewart Collection Cookie & Icing Gun

Milkmaid Butter Dish

Glass Drink Dispenser

Le Creuset Signature Round Dutch Oven

Martha Stewart Collection Magnetic Measuring Spoons

“Hot” Trivet

Have any kitchen must-haves you can’t live without? Leave us a comment below!


August 13

Can We Ask for Cash Instead of Gifts? Today’s Diva Dish

For whatever reason, some couples would rather collect cash than gather gifts from their wedding guests. Take this stressed out reader, for instance:

Dear Divas,

My fiance and I have been living together for quite a while, so we’ve already set up house. We don’t need any of the things people normally register for, so we were hoping to encourage our guests to donate money to our honeymoon instead. Is that appropriate?

Thanks for your help!

Honeymoon Hannah

Dear Hannah,

Thanks for writing in! We know this is a common question that many engaged couples share, so we are glad you voiced your concern. The truth of the matter is that you shouldn’t request any type of gift at all on your invitations—by including your registry information (even on an enclosure card!) you make it seem as though guests must bring gifts in order to attend. Although adding registry information to wedding invitations has become more common in recent years, it is most certainly frowned upon as a sign of poor etiquette.

Instead, we recommend trusting your bridesmaids and family members to spread the word about where you are registered (or your preference for cash) in a tactful way. You can also include this information on your wedding website (Wedding Paper Divas offers websites to match your invitations for free!) with a link to your registry.

As far as requesting cash goes, it’s perfectly understandable. There are elegant ways to show people that you are saving for your honeymoon as well, including online honeymoon registries that people can use to submit their donations.

We do suggest that you register for a few things you could use, however, because some people simply don’t feel comfortable giving cash as a gift. Maybe there are some new linens you had your eye on, or a new set of wine glasses you could use? For some of your guests, it will be nice to have that option.

Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you!


July 9

Rant or Rave: Buying Off the Registry or Not?

From bed linens and kitchen towels to wine glasses, wall decor and even down to a doormat, wedding registries serve the ultimate wish list for a bride and groom. Aside from allowing couples to collectively outfit their new life, wedding registries exist to make guests’ lives easier. Plus, they have that added benefit of greatly reducing unwanted and duplicated gifts.

Bed sheets and vacuum cleaners may not be the most personal gifts, but chances are if they registered for it, they will still find it thoughtful. Still, we hear time and again stories of guests who chose to do their own thing when it comes to gift giving, rather than following a registry.

Should guests be entitled to buy gifts they choose or do you find that selfish? Have you strayed from a registry to buy the perfect gift for a friend? Do guests who choose not to buy off the registry make you want to rant or rave?


August 28

Rant or Rave: An REI Registry

Since so many engaged couples already have everything they need to set up a home together, there’s a growing trend in the wedding industry that has them registering for something other than flatware.

REI wedding registries are gaining popularity with engaged couples who register for everything from camping gear to skis and sports equipment. We’ve also seen honeymoon donation registries, home buying registries and even people who registered for DVDs and video games.

Do you think this is a creative way for couples to get the things they need to have fun together, or do you feel like it’s an abuse of traditional wedding registries? Where would you draw the line? Do alternative registries make you want to rant or rave?