When a couple gets engaged, it’s common for them to ask their friends and family members for wedding planning advice. Sometimes, however, this advice can overstep people’s boundaries, making them feel like the engaged couple is stealing their best vendors, cherished DIY ideas and favorite style tips.

After planning your own unique and stylish wedding celebration, would you share your best ideas with a friend or family member? At what point does it become mooching off the kindness of friends and family? Does the idea of someone copying your wedding make you want to rant or rave?

Here at Wedding Paper Divas, we’ve made it our mission to revive the art of letter writing by offering exquisite stationery that will inspire you to keep in touch with friends and celebrate in style. While emails and text messages might be right at your fingertips all day long, we think there’s something irresistible about a hand written note that arrives in the mail.

These days it seems like only long distance lovers ever send love letters anymore, and even then email and online chatting are the preferred methods of communication. But, as evidence that the love letter is still a cherished art form, we have seen gorgeous wedding photo books featuring excerpts from love letters that would make your heart melt! Plus, some of us have even been lucky enough to receive these little gems in our mailboxes from time to time.

We can’t help but to fall in love all over again when we get a handwritten letter in the mail—but what about you? Do you find the romance in love letters, or do you think they are a relic of the pre-Internet past? Has your beloved ever sent you a hand written note? Do love letters make you want to rant or rave?

Throwing the bouquet is a time-honored tradition for most brides (it’s always funny to see one’s girlfriends and female relatives clamoring after the little bundle of flowers!), but there’s another toss that seems to cause a lot of anxiety at wedding receptions. Many people think it’s a tradition to have the groom slip the garter off his new bride’s leg to throw to all of the single men in attendance in much the same way that a bride throws her bouquet.

The problem is that in order to accomplish this, the bride has to bare her leg to all of the guests in attendance! Some women find this mortifying and inappropriate. What do you think? Have you heard of any fun alternatives? Does the garter toss make you want to rant or rave?

As all of the Wedding Paper Divas staffers stand around in their pirate, princess and pumpkin costumes, the conversation inevitably turns to our plans for tonight. Half of us are headed out on the town or to parties to celebrate monster mashes and graveyard bashes, but the other half are planning a quiet evening at home—except for the endless knocking of trick-or-treaters!

This debate has us wondering at what point as a married couple do you decide to spend a leisurely Halloween at home instead of running out to parties, haunted houses and other spooky events? What are your plans this year? Will you be renting classic horror movies or horrifying your friends when you win “Scariest Costume” at a local club? Does the idea of staying in on Halloween make you want to rant or rave?

You’ve intricately planned every detail of your wedding reception, from your ornate flower arrangements to the delicate music of a classical quartet, the creamy silk tablecloths and the luxurious layers of decadent chocolate icing on your tower of cupcakes. Everything is picture perfect as you glide onto the dance floor for your first dance, when suddenly—CRASH! A hoard of chocolate-crazed children knock over the cupcake table, launching the sweet treats into the air. They inevitably land haplessly in your vases, on your silky tables and, quite possibly, in the lap of your new mother-in-law.

Okay, so this scenario might seem a little far fetched, but there are many other valid reasons for excluding children from your wedding reception. For starters, weddings are adult affairs—kids usually get bored and cranky. Plus, if you have 300 guests who RSVP yes, each with two children in tow, it can quickly double your expenses. All in all, it might be best to limit the number of munchkins to the flower girl and the ring bearer.

The downside of this plan? People will be upset. Family members in particular might feel slighted when you ask them to get a babysitter for the little ones, and you are sure to hear about it right at the height of your wedding planning stress.

Considering all the possible outcomes, what do you think? Do kid-free weddings make you want to rant or rave?

I love all things cute and cuddly, and this naturally includes puppies. I’ll admit that I’ve had a good laugh putting glasses on my dog’s snout and snapping a photo, or even sending picture texts to my friends when he sits with his paws on my laptop like he’s about to write his canine memoirs. But dressing him up in a tux and performing a puppy marriage might take the whole “dog-as-human” thing a little too far.

We TV has a whole section of it’s website dedicated to puppy weddings, and a lot of them are super cute. But we are curious to know what you think. Are puppy weddings too much, or are they harmless fun? Is your pooch next in line to register at Petco for a porcelain dog bowl and some fresh, new tennis balls? Do puppy weddings make you want to rant or rave?

With the holiday season fast approaching, everyone’s schedules seem to be filling up with dinner parties, shopping sprees and trips home to visit family and friends. With all of the holiday hub-bub happening over the next few months, throwing a wedding into the mix sounds like a social challenge indeed. But scheduling your wedding on or near a holiday has implications throughout the year as well–who wants to attend someone’s wedding on Valentine’s Day, Memorial Day or the Fourth of July?

Have you ever been invited to a wedding on a national holiday? Would you consider scheduling your wedding on a holiday? Why or why not? Rant or rave?

For centuries, women have been taking on the last names of their husbands as a part of the whole wedding extravaganza. The practice is still prevalent today, with many women saying they happily take their husbands’ names because it is tradition, because they don’t like their maiden names or just because it’s a practice so ingrained in our society that they hadn’t thought of an alternative.

But in recent years, many women have been keeping their maiden names, or even encouraging their future husbands to take on their last names in a huge reversal of the typical surname structure. As reported in a variety of sources, from USA Today to religious websites like JC.com and legal sites like LegalZoom.com, the prevalence of husbands taking their wives last names has risen dramatically over the past few years. And yet, these couples continue to face harsh challenges, including ridicule from friends and a legal system that makes it easy for women to change their names, but much harder for men to do the same.

What do you think? Would you want your future husband to take your last name? Or, as a man, would you consider taking your wife’s surname? Under what conditions? Rant or rave about it!

Traditional wisdom dictates that no matter how casual a wedding may be, there are certain categories of clothing guests should NEVER wear. This timeless list of banned items includes white (for men AND women), shorts, super high heels (especially for outdoor weddings), bathing suits and anything sparkly (no one wants to outshine the bride–literally!).

And yet, in the modern age of underwater weddings, zoo weddings and weddings atop the wings of flying planes, does this classic fashion advice still stand? What do you think? If someone showed up to your beach wedding in a bikini, a pair of shorts or a slinky, sequin dress, would it make you want to rant or rave?

Exes pose an interesting problem for engaged couples. When a person remains close friends with exes and asks to invite them to the ceremony, his or her future spouse might be prone to feelings of jealousy (which could cause extra, unneeded tension during the wedding planning process). Some argue that exes should be summarily excluded from your wedding no matter what the circumstances, while others contend that you should be allowed to invite all of your close friends regardless of your romantic history with them.

I personally have an ex-boyfriend who is so well integrated into my social circle, I don’t even think of him as a former flame anymore. I think it would be silly to leave him off the guest list, but I’m not so sure my future husband would feel the same way. What do you think? Would you ever invite an ex to your wedding? Under what circumstances? And, if your future spouse invited an ex, would it make you want to rant or rave?