Once in a lifetime photos? Or a special private moment? The jury is out on whether to have friends or family at the marriage proposal.
We’ve heard stories of family that is there snapping photos but otherwise remain unseen to full-on parties where everyone there knows the news and is in on helping plan the surprise. And, of course, a more traditional private moment just for the two of you. Would you rather keep the special moment in your memory or share it with those close to you? Rant or rave and tell us about your proposal story!
We’ve heard that 80% of engaged or married women say their marriage proposal wasn’t exactly romantic, and we think that’s just plain sad! Sure, not everyone wants to plan out an elaborate scavenger hunt across the city or arrange for a flash mob to take over the street to help pop the question, but there are some simple things you can do to ensure that your proposal is as memorable and wonderful as it deserves to be.
Here are our top tips for the perfect marriage proposal:
1. Know What You Want.
Planning a wedding is one thing, but planning to spend the rest of your life with someone is an entirely different story. Make sure you really know what you want. Can your relationship survive the best of times and the worst of times? Will this person be your partner through thick and thin? Can you stand his or her mother at every family holiday? A happy proposal starts with true commitment.
2. Get Family and Friends Involved.
My personal favorite proposal stories are private, but then include friends and family for a celebration after. Have them make a surprise appearance or play a part in the big event and it’ll make it that much more special for your future spouse.
3. Find the Right Ring.
Don’t get cynical on me just yet! I don’t mean that the ring you choose has to be gigantic or pricey, but it does have to reflect the person you’re giving it to. From vintage styles to chic and modern ones, offbeat colored engagement rings to heirlooms handed down through the family, all you have to do is make sure it’s the right style. After all, this is one of the only accessories that will be worn every day for the rest of your lives together!
4. Pick the Perfect Place.
Get creative and make it personal. There are probably places in your city where everyone seems to propose (here in San Francisco, it’s Coit Tower), but if that spot isn’t personally relevant to you it won’t have the same impact. Trust me—you could propose at the diner you two love to go to for Sunday morning breakfast and it’ll mean more than a fancy restaurant you’ve never been to before.
5. Make a Speech.
I know you’re probably nervous and hoping to just blurt out, “Marry me!” to get it over with, but this is a special moment and the person you’re asking to spend the rest of his or her life with you is going to be hanging on every word. Now is the time to dig deep and come up with a few short things you want to say to lay a foundation of love, respect and trust to build a marriage upon. Just don’t get cliched—no one wants to hear that they had you at hello!
What’s your best advice for someone getting ready to pop the question? Leave us a comment and let us know!
Over the past few months, several emails, texts and phone calls have been coming my way something along the lines of, “I’m Engaged!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!” You could say I’m at the age where many of my college friends are either asking or answering that big question.
For me, even better than the news of a friend’s engagement is how he did it. The proposal story is always my favorite part. And the silver screen has a knack for memorable question popping. Walk the Line, The Wedding Singer, Sweet Home Alabama and Stepmom, just to name a few.
Do you know someone who reenacted a movie proposal for their own? What did you think when you heard the story? Do movie marriage proposals used in real life make you want to rant or rave?
We love all the creative proposals that are springing up involving lights, creative grooms-to-be and long exposure photography!
First there’s this adorable video, which shows the painstaking process this groom went through to capture his city all lit up with his proposal for his future wife:
Then there’s these charming photos of a couple who are friends with the lovely ladies of Jolie Jolie. The groom surprised his bride by scrawling out “Marry Me” in light as he took a long exposure shot of them on the beach in Cabo!
I guess all you need for a creative proposal really are lights, a camera and the love of your life!