February 21

Ask Etta: A Guest in the Military

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.

Jamie Asks…

A friend of mine’s husband is deployed overseas. Should I address my invitation only to her or to the couple?

Etta Says…

Definitely the couple—just as if he were home. It might even be nice to include a personal note (handwritten, of course!) expressing how you wish they could both be there for your special day. Even if you know he won’t be able to make it, they’ll certainly appreciate the thought.

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