To keep your last name, take his or hyphenate. That is the question. There are a lot of feelings and heated debate about the topic. For some, the husband-to-be has a strong opinion. For other couples, it’s a topic that is of little significance. Other brides-to-be have waited for the opportunity to show their love and devotion by adopting their husband’s name. What are you and your fiancee planning to do? Rant or rave!
Here’s a what a few of our Facebook fans had to say:
“i’m thinking about hyphenating my name because i’m my dads only child so there is no one to carry on the name ” -Shaundra
“Taking my husband’s last name. He stole my heart, so I’m stealing his last name ♥” -Jessica
“Keeping my last name. I love him dearly.. but I’m no one’s property. If he would hyphenate his name to..I would do it. To signify a unity. But I don’t see the why a woman should take a guys name…as if he owns her. Marriage is 50/50..so why don’t both people hyphenate to show the union ♥” -Misty
“Hyphenating…Not that I don’t love him enough to take his last name only, I just am very attached to mine.” -Brigitte
“Just to point out the obvious…You can keep your name as is legally and use your husbands as you please or vise versa…Speaking form someone that has been married once before opting to keep your name is so much easier but this is a personal decision so whatever floats your boat. As for me I am keeping my name he is more than welcome to take mine if he likes. :).” -Johanna
“How many men out there take the woman’s last name? Now there’s an idea!” -Kirsty
“If there is one thing my fiance has an opinion about, it’s taking his name. Although I like my name better than his, I am going to take his last name.” – Jessalyn
It’s a long time tradition for women to change their last name when they get married, most commonly taking the husband’s last name. It is definitely a personal choice and couples are increasingly finding creative ways to go about changing or combining last names. Whatever you and your husband decide to do after you are officially married, there are certain key documents you will need to update with your new last name, including your social security card, driver’s license, passport, credit cards etc. Keep in mind that you will need to show a certified copy of your marriage license on every name changing occasion. Besides the legalities, there are other printed materials you will need to update as well, such as stationery. Picking out new designs for note cards, address labels, moving announcements and business cards is the fun part! Are you considering changing your name or will you be keeping your maiden name? Leave a comment below!
For centuries, women have been taking on the last names of their husbands as a part of the whole wedding extravaganza. The practice is still prevalent today, with many women saying they happily take their husbands’ names because it is tradition, because they don’t like their maiden names or just because it’s a practice so ingrained in our society that they hadn’t thought of an alternative.
But in recent years, many women have been keeping their maiden names, or even encouraging their future husbands to take on their last names in a huge reversal of the typical surname structure. As reported in a variety of sources, from USA Today to religious websites like JC.com and legal sites like LegalZoom.com, the prevalence of husbands taking their wives last names has risen dramatically over the past few years. And yet, these couples continue to face harsh challenges, including ridicule from friends and a legal system that makes it easy for women to change their names, but much harder for men to do the same.
What do you think? Would you want your future husband to take your last name? Or, as a man, would you consider taking your wife’s surname? Under what conditions? Rant or rave about it!