Dear Divas,
I am going to a beach wedding this summer and I’ve been searching for a light, airy dress to wear for weeks. Since white is very in style right now, I see it everywhere–and I love it. I can’t seem to find a dress I like that ISN’T white. So, my question is: Is it OK if I wear white to the wedding? What if it’s a sun dress style–not remotely bridal? What about primarily white with accent colors? Help!
Wondering About White
Dear Wondering About White:
Ahhh, the age-old question: Can you wear white to a wedding? My first instinct is to say no. The bride has spent months planning her wedding, choosing a dress, and ensuring that she will sparkle and shine on her wedding day. To detract any attention from her seems mildly disrespectful, both to her feelings and the time she spent planning the wedding. Particularly in the case of a beach wedding, many dresses tend to be more casual, so a sundress may not look that drastically different from the wedding dress. However, I do feel there are exceptions to this rule. A dress that is white with accent colors most likely will not resemble a wedding gown, and therefore is ok to wear. Use your best judgement and take the person getting married, the style of wedding and your personal style in to account–is the bride the type that wants all eyes on her? Could the dress you’re considering double for a wedding gown? Do you have other options available to you that would still fit your style? If you answered yes to any of these questions, chances are good you should not be wearing white.
In general I would err on the side of caution–this is someone you care about getting married–although white might be in style, you don’t want to wear it and risk the feelings of a friend. There are plenty of other colors that are “in style”–have you considered gray? Very stylish and subtle. I remember a woman at my wedding wearing a white evening gown. Although she wouldn’t have been mistaken for the bride, it still irked me slightly. It seemed thoughtless, almost as though she gave no thought to the type of event she was attending–and I’m not even the type that would care that much! As the old saying goes, better safe than sorry! Good luck!
