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April 9

Ask Etta: Sending Late Wedding Thank You Cards

Jill asks…

I had great plans of creating DIY thank you cards personalized for each of my guests, including a photo of myself, my husband, and the guest at our wedding reception. But when we returned home from our honeymoon, it was a whirlwind of moving into a new house, catching up on two weeks of missed work, and settling in to our new married life. Somehow, four months have passed, and not a single thank you note has been sent. Am I too late? Would it be better to just not send a thank you card at all, at this point?

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Marriage Manifesto

Etta says…

While the proper time frame for a wedding thank you note is within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon, it is never too late to send a thank you card. Any guest that truly appreciates receiving a thank you card will know you haven’t sent one yet, and will be happy to find one in the mail (even if it is four months late). Remember, something is better than nothing, in this case. As for your other guests, if they haven’t realized your thank you cards are late, it’s likely that they don’t know the proper etiquette timeframe. Therefore, your note will be a lovely surprise for them.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Thankful Thoughts

The inclusion of a photo is a thoughtful addition to a thank you card, but individual photos can be time consuming. Choose your favorite photo from your wedding day of you and your groom, and use the same image for all cards to help manage your time effectively.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Elegant Etching

If you need help on how to craft the perfect thank you card, I have tackled that question here: The Golden Rules of Gratitude.

Wedding Paper Divas Photo Thank You Card -- Well of Love

I hope this helps, Jill!

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Have an etiquette question for Etta? Email us at etta@weddingpaperdivas.com and she’ll post an answer for you.

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May 15

Ask Etta: The Golden Rules of Gratitude

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.

We’ve had a lot of questions trickle in this week about thank you cards, so we’re answering them all in this special edition of Ask Etta. Wondering what to say, send and when? Here’s everything you ever wanted to know about thank you card etiquette.

Response Time

For showers, send thank yous within 10 days of the event. For the wedding, within two weeks of returning from your honeymoon. Always send bridal shower thank yous separate from wedding thank yous, even if they are to the same person.

What to Put Inside?

We know “write from the heart” may be a bit cliche, but it’s a commonly used phrase for a reason! Make it personal. If you’re really stumped, here’s a little formula to work off of:

Greet your guest(s) + express your gratitude and be specific about the gift + thank them for attending (or for thinking of you if they couldn’t make it).

  • Let your recipient know how you plan to use the gift. As in, “We use the cappuccino maker every morning. Seriously, we can’t live without it.”
  • This goes without saying, but just in case, make sure the person you are thanking for a gift is actually the person who sent it. Other than misspelling a name, nothing is more unflattering than mixing up guest and gift. A smart way to ensure this doesn’t happen is to keep a spreadsheet or write the cards as you receive the gifts.
  • Adding a photo will make it extra personal. Don’t be shy with your wedding photos! Guests will love to relive the memories with you.

Monetary Gifts

These go a little differently, but being personal is still the most important. Thank the guest for their generosity, but don’t mention a specific amount. You can even let them know what their contribution will go toward… “Your generosity will help with the down payment for our new condo.”

No Gift?

It’s still important to send a note, thanking them for being a part of your big day. After all, if not for friends and family, who would help you celebrate? And don’t forget your vendors, either–they will also play a special role on your wedding day.

Addressing & Sending

Some tips on titles and envelopes…

  • Address each card to the individual who attended or who signed your gift’s card.
  • For families, address the envelope to “Mr. and Mrs.” The salutation inside can use their first names. If it’s a more formal relationship, stick to the Mr. and Mrs. greeting inside the note. In the body, be sure to mention the other family members who attended too.
  • For an extra chic touch, use specialty stamps.
  • Remember to hand-stamp every note–prepaid postage techniques are a bit impersonal.

If you can follow these etiquette tips, you’ll be golden.


Have an etiquette question for Etta? Email us at etta@weddingpaperdivas.com and she’ll post an answer for you.

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