Etiquette Advice

January 15

Martha Stewart Weddings Facebook Chat

We are very excited to announce that next week we will be doing a live Facebook chat with our friends at Martha Stewart Weddings. This is a wonderful opportunity to have your personal questions answered by stationery, etiquette and planning experts from Martha Stewart Weddings and Wedding Paper Divas. Not sure how to kindly ask your wedding guests to leave their children at home? Wondering if your save the dates need to match your invitation design? Join us next Tuesday and let us help.

What: Live Facebook Chat with Martha Stewart Weddings
When: Tuesday, January 22 from 10-11 a.m. Pacific (1-2 p.m. Eastern)
Where: The chat will take place on Martha Stewart Weddings Facebook page – we will see you there!


In addition to having direct access to editors from Martha Stewart Weddings and our very own stationery experts, you will receive 10 free samples and be entered to win up to $250 from Wedding Paper Divas just for participating. You can see all the rules and details here.


August 8

When Should I Send My Save the Date? Today’s Diva Dish

You said “Yes!” You and your future-hubby have decided on a destination wedding. Wondering when you should send your save the date out? You’re not alone. Take this reader’s question, for instance…

Dear Divas,

I’m getting married August 2012 in Maui, Hawaii (I live in Canada) and I just ordered the save the date cards. Will probably send them in July/August. I wanna give people as much time as possible to save and plan for such a trip. Is this sufficient?


Destination wedding timing can be tricky, so this is a great question. Here’s what our etiquette experts have to say…

Save the dates are often sent out anywhere from four months before the wedding to up to a year or more prior, depending on whether the event will be a destination wedding, if majority of people are coming from out of town, whether it’s on a holiday, etc. We suggest sending the save the dates out as soon as you gather all of the important information (hotel group rates, rental car info, travel agent contact info), even up to a year ahead of time.

We also suggest setting up a website with all of this important travel information and referencing the web address on your save the date cards. It’s always best to provide as much information to your guests on travel and as early as possible to make planning easier for all parties. However, if you’re having a smaller wedding with most of the guest living locally or close by, it is not as necessary to send out save the dates as far in advance. In this case, four to six months beforehand would be sufficient.

We hope this helps, Chelsea. Good luck planning your dreamy destination wedding!

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May 9

A Save the Date Dilemma: Today’s Diva Dish

When it comes to numbers and guest lists, we know etiquette can get a little sticky. Take this reader’s question into consideration…


I have a wedding invitation etiquette question.  I sent out save the date cards a few months ago.  If someone tells me that they cannot attend the wedding based on the save the date card, do I still send them a wedding invitation?

Thank you!


Thanks so much for writing in, Courtney!

Luckily, this etiquette question has a pretty simple solution. Our experts agree that it’s still necessary to send a formal wedding invitation, even if your guest tells you they won’t be able to attend after receiving your save the date. Not only is it a nice formality, but leaving them off your invite list after you’ve already sent them a save the date may result in (easily avoidable) hurt feelings. Plus, you never know if their plans will change!

Do you agree with our advice for Courtney? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to and we’ll post an answer for you.