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I have been to so many engagement parties and I am still not sure what the etiquette is for gifts. Do I need to bring a gift to the engagement party?
This is a tricky question but it usually depends. In the past, engagement gifts were not expected and this is still primarily the case. However, in many parts of the country this custom has changed almost into a “must.” It can be tricky since gift instructions are not included on the invitation so the best thing to do is check with the host. If the engaged couple is worried about their friends spending too much money they will often tell the host that they prefer “no gifts.” Also, some areas have different traditions so you can also check with a local wedding planner for more insight.
In the end, it is your decision on whether or not to give an engagement gift and depends on local customs, your relationship with the newly engaged couple, and even your budget. Keep in mind it is common for close friends and family member to bring a gift.
An engagement gift should really be a kindhearted gesture of affection and it doesn’t need to be expensive or elaborate. In addition, simple gifts such as a cookbook of their favorite cuisine or a nice bottle of wine are great engagement gifts. You can also bring a thoughtful engagement card and it can show just as much appreciation.
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While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs (aka the fun parts of wedding planning!) we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. So, we would like to formally introduce you to Etta, our new etiquette expert. She’s ready and happy to delve into your every etiquette dilemma.
I’m recently engaged and my friends are throwing an engagement bash for us. Should we register gifts for the engagement party?
Picking out your future home necessities is certainly one of the highlights of wedding planning… and it’s definitely acceptable to register as soon as you get engaged. However, it’s considered poor form to include registry information on any wedding correspondence other than your bridal shower invitation. If guests do bring gifts to the engagement soiree, as always, don’t forget to send thanks!
If you want to save all the bells and whistles for your wedding day, or maybe fancy just isn’t your style, then a casual engagment party is the way to go. We love playful touches like bunting and simple but sweet DIY decor elements for an intimate affair.
L to R: Wedding Paper Divas Lovely Little Flags invitation, Cake, Ringbox, Apple Pie Pops, Engagement Bunting, Mason Jars, Tablescape
A country apple themed engagement party is ideal for the Fall season. For a charming touch, incorporate homemade accents such as classic pies, apple butter favors and rustic DIY decor.
L to R: Wedding Paper Divas Royal Engagement invitation, Apple Butter favors, Rings, Leaf Glass Topper, Homemade Pies, Helios & Luna Sheath Dress, Caramel Apples, Tin Pails
Everybody knows that weddings aren’t cheap (to put it mildly). But the parties leading up to them can really add up for the guests. Gifts. Travel. Accommodations. Outfits. The list goes on. What do you think is too much? If the couple is having an out-of-town wedding is it too much to have a destination bachelorette party and expect people to come? Is bringing a gift for every event (engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette party and wedding) too much or just plain courtesy?
We are so intrigued to find out what you guys think… so, go ahead, rant or rave!
Kermit mums, natural branches, and subtle bird accents make this inspiration board sweet and fun. The pops of lime green against ecru and ivory keep the theme from looking too serious and maintains the lightness that is so appropriate for an engagement party.
L to R: Wedding Paper Divas Love Bird Banner party invitation, Tiered Cake, Cake Topper via Etsy, Green Feather Hair Clip, Tree Centerpiece, Green Mums Pomander, Green Dessert Table, J.Crew Bow Monde dress
The playful design and color scheme of this invitation was the starting point for our bright engagement party inspiration board. Red, mandarin orange, and turquoise look sweet and chic when used in a blocks of color and combined with modern touches.
L to R: Jean Paul Gaultier Tulle Maxi Dress, Wedding Paper Divas Forever Paired Party Invitation, Table Décor, Cupcakes, Square Favor Box, Pomanders, Jose & Maria Barrera Necklace
We turned to this witty party invitation in a beautiful deep sea green for inspiration for an engagement party! Pair this hue with white and subtle accents of chartreuse green as we did below for a fresh and stylish combination.
L to R: Wedding Paper Divas Our Plan Party Invitation, ABS Cascading Flower Dress, Table decor, Monogram Cupcake Wrappers, Rings, Petal Top Truffle Boxes, Cookies
For your engagement party, a clean color palette using black, cream, and light blue will create an elegant atmosphere. Diamond rings and crystals incorporated into the decor add that perfect engagement-appropriate touch! Here are some ideas to inspire you in your planning.
L to R: Wedding Paper Divas Engagement Silhouette Party Invitation, Dessert table, Chloe & Reese Sleeveless V-Neck Silk Dress, Crystal Tree centerpiece, Manolo Blahnik Jeweled Satin d’Orsay, Engagement Cake, Silver Plated Diamond Ring Napkin Holders, Giant Diamond Ring Paperweight, Turquoise tables
Although tradition dictates that a bride’s parents should host her engagement party in their home, modern couples seem much more apt to take matters into their own hands with an engagement party that’s chic, unique and planned to delight their guests.
One of the best ways to ensure that everyone has a great time at your engagement celebration is to encourage guests to mingle by setting up your event in one of these charming and casual atmospheres with engagement party invitations to match:
- The Wine Bar: Perfect for an adult-only affair, wine bars offer a range of appetizers and a wealth of libations for your guests to share. If that doesn’t get them chatting, nothing will!
- Your Backyard: Host an afternoon barbecue or string up lights for a sweet, starry celebration in your own backyard! Your guests will love the intimate setting.
- The Park: Let the kiddies run wild with a daytime soiree in a nearby park. The outdoor setting will encourage guests to sprawl on picnic blankets while they talk about what a great couple you make.
- A Champagne Brunch: Pick your favorite hotel or cafe and crowd your loved ones inside for a sweet little brunch to celebrate your love. You are sure to make lasting memories over eggs and mimosas!
- Your Favorite Restaurant: What better way to share your style as a couple than to host your event at your favorite restaurant or the location of your first date?