Diva Dish

September 19

Where Can I Put My Registry Cards? Today’s Diva Dish

We’ve been getting a lot of registry questions lately, so we’re dedicating today’s Diva Dish to the tricky topic. Take this Facebook fan’s question for instance…

Where (if anywhere?) can I put my registry cards?


Many different resources will suggest that including registry information with your wedding invitations is less than ideal. If possible, we suggest looking at other options for letting guests know where you are registered, merely to avoid having guests feel like more importance is placed on the gift-receiving rather than the event itself. Need a couple ideas? We recommend the following:

  • Set up a wedding website and include an enclosure card with the web address (or put it on the invitation if needed) with a registry page. This way, guests will automatically know to check out the site for gift ideas—and no registry information will be with the invite at all.
  • Have your maid of honor and best man spread the word. He or she (or both!) can include the information on shower invitations and share it by word of mouth to make sure the registries get circulated.

Still, for many couples, registry cards are the easiest option. And since there are more and more efforts being made to condense paper items down and be more environmentally friendly, many will argue that this is an appropriate way to share registry information. If you decide to include a registry card with your wedding invitations, make sure it is behind the invitation itself—and as understated as possible.

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.


August 22

Addressing Invitations: Today’s Diva Dish

Struggling to understand the finer points of wedding invitation etiquette? Today’s Diva Dish covers that all-important topic: how to address wedding invitations.

Hi Divas, Ladies first, right? (names on the invites, that is). From Angela

We’re glad you asked, Angela! The answer is: it depends on the situation. In general, it’s proper etiquette to list the person you’re closest with first on the invitation, whether they’re male or female. If you’re equally close with both guests, follow tradition and name the male first. Things get complicated from here; for plenty of tips on how to address wedding invitations for unmarried couples, families, or single ladies, read on!

Addressing Wedding Invitations to a Married Couple

The most traditional way to address an opposite-sex married couple is using the male’s first and last name. This traditional salutation reads:

Mr. and Mrs. Mark Rodriguez

For same-sex couples, list whomever you’re closet with first, and be sure to include first and last names. Another option is to bypass salutations and use a simple last name.

Mr. David Gonzalez and Mr. Jorge Gonzalez

465 Gardenia Lane
Los Angeles, CA 90041

For a couple with different or hyphenated last names, list whomever you’re closest to first and when in doubt, list the male first. Examples:

Mrs. Sarah Maddox and Mr. James Billings

Mr. Pete Hopkins and Mrs. Monique White

Mr. George Press and Mrs. Denise Thompson-Press

Mrs. Angela Bartley-Cox and Mr. William Cox

Mrs. Kylie Baxter and Mrs. Pam Baxter-Franklin

Addressing Wedding Invitations to an Unmarried Couple

When addressing unmarried couples, the same rule applies. List your loved one first and their guest second, unless you’re equally close to both, in which case it is proper etiquette to list the male first. For same-sex couples, list whomever you’re closest to or when in doubt, whomever comes first alphabetically.

Ms. Mary Garcia and Mr. Matthew Clemson

Mr. Bart Novak and Ms. Patricia Avery

Mr. Cameron Baker and Mr. Walter Scott

Addressing Wedding Invitations to a Single Female

Addressing to single females can be tricky, as it’s necessary to indicate and respect status. Young women, married women, divorced women and widows have entirely different salutations. See below for clarification!

Single Woman:

Ms. Elizabeth Montgomery

Miss Emily Parker (under 18)


Mrs. Jenny Forsyth or Mrs. James Forsyth (use her deceased husband’s name if appropriate. Use your best judgment depending on individual)


Ms. Marian Baumgartner

Ms. Marian Collins (use guest’s maiden name if she prefers)

Addressing Wedding Invitations to Families

Traditional etiquette suggests addressing wedding invitations for families to the parents on the outside envelope and including children’s names inside. You’ll never go wrong with this rule, however it’s also appropriate to address the family as a unit. Whatever you choose, it’s essential to indicate or include children’s names on the invitation, or most parents will assume kids are not invited.

Mr. and Mrs. Alexander Orlov

To Alex, Betty, Preston and Miss Katrina (use ‘Miss’ to address girls under 18 at your discretion)

The Orlov Family

To Alex, Betty, Preston and Katrina,

Need more detailed info on how to address wedding invitations? Visit our interactive page for more details.


August 8

When Should I Send My Save the Date? Today’s Diva Dish

You said “Yes!” You and your future-hubby have decided on a destination wedding. Wondering when you should send your save the date out? You’re not alone. Take this reader’s question, for instance…

Dear Divas,

I’m getting married August 2012 in Maui, Hawaii (I live in Canada) and I just ordered the save the date cards. Will probably send them in July/August. I wanna give people as much time as possible to save and plan for such a trip. Is this sufficient?


Destination wedding timing can be tricky, so this is a great question. Here’s what our etiquette experts have to say…

Save the dates are often sent out anywhere from four months before the wedding to up to a year or more prior, depending on whether the event will be a destination wedding, if majority of people are coming from out of town, whether it’s on a holiday, etc. We suggest sending the save the dates out as soon as you gather all of the important information (hotel group rates, rental car info, travel agent contact info), even up to a year ahead of time.

We also suggest setting up a website with all of this important travel information and referencing the web address on your save the date cards. It’s always best to provide as much information to your guests on travel and as early as possible to make planning easier for all parties. However, if you’re having a smaller wedding with most of the guest living locally or close by, it is not as necessary to send out save the dates as far in advance. In this case, four to six months beforehand would be sufficient.

We hope this helps, Chelsea. Good luck planning your dreamy destination wedding!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.


August 1

Multiple Parents, Multiple Worries: Today’s Diva Dish

If you have parents who have remarried and aren’t sure how to word your wedding programs, our etiquette expert’s may have the answers you’re seeking. Take this reader’s dilemma, for instance…

Hi Divas,

My parents divorced years ago and my dad has since remarried, but my mom has not remarried. I want to list “Parents of the Bride” on my wedding programs, but I’m not sure where (if at all?) to include my stepmother. What’s the best way to go about this without hurting anyone’s feelings?


Thanks so much for writing in, Marci. Rest assured, you’re certainly not the first stressed out bride-to-be with this worry. Here’s what our etiquette experts suggest:

The easiest way to avoid any hard feelings is to include everyone. Like so…

Parents of the Bride

Mrs. Biological Mother

Mr. & Mrs. Biological Father (which includes your stepmom)

This way, no one will get left out—allowing everyone to focus on being a part of your special day.

Do you agree with our advice for Marci? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.


July 21

Are Bridal Shower Favors a Must-Have? Today’s Diva Dish

Planning your best friend’s bridal shower? We know how costs can add up. Take this reader, for instance, who wrote us in a party planning pickle…

I’m the MOH for my best friend’s wedding. The other bridesmaids and I are currently planning her bridal shower and we’re all chipping in for the invitations, food and decorations… but I’m not sure we’ll have budget leftover for party favors. Are they a must-have?

Help an MOH out!

Don’t worry, MOH… we’ve received this question countless times! Like most parts of traditional wedding planning, shower favors aren’t required—but it’s definitely a nice gesture to have something for guests to take home. It’s not so much whether or not favors are a must, but more a matter of how to find something inexpensive that doesn’t lack quality or style.

Have you had a chance to browse our Beau-coup favor boutique? There are loads of practical wedding favors, offering you an easy (and chic!) way to delight shower guests without breaking the bank. Here are a few of our favorites…

Cherry Blossom Glass Coasters—as low as 95¢ each

Swish Handle Cup and Saucer Sets—as low as $2.50 each

Stainless Steel Spreader with Wine Cork Handle—as low as $1.95 each

Damask Glass Tea Light Holders—as low as $1.60 each

Personalized Love Story Notes—as low as $1.30 each

Even if these favors don’t fit into your shower budget, you can still set up a candy or cookie bar and order these personalized goodie bags for only 60¢ each. That way everyone will go home with a sweet treat… and you’ll still stay well within your price limit.

Good luck with the rest of your shower planning!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you!


June 27

Notes on Wedding Attire: Today’s Diva Dish

If your wedding celebration is taking place in a non-traditional venue like a barn, winery or beach, it might be best to inform guests how to dress for the elements. What’s the best way to do so? Take this Wedding Paper Divas fan’s question, for instance…

We want to include a note about attire in our enclosure cards, but aren’t sure how to describe the feel. we’re getting married at a venue that has a grassy area for the ceremony and a barn with a cement floor for the reception/dancing. any suggestions? i don’t want to call it garden attire and we don’t want people showing up in jeans either. Thanks in advance! —Melissa B.

This is a great question, especially with outdoor wedding season upon us. We recommend using casual attire, but emphasizing the no jeans request. Describing the setting will also help guests get dressed appropriately. Something like: “Ceremony will be in a grassy area and reception will follow in the barn. Please dress smart casual with comfortable shoes. Please no jeans.” For more attire tips and tricks, check out this great cheat sheet from The Knot.

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.