Tag Archives: Diva Dish

September 19

Where Can I Put My Registry Cards? Today’s Diva Dish

We’ve been getting a lot of registry questions lately, so we’re dedicating today’s Diva Dish to the tricky topic. Take this Facebook fan’s question for instance…

Where (if anywhere?) can I put my registry cards?

-Tori

Many different resources will suggest that including registry information with your wedding invitations is less than ideal. If possible, we suggest looking at other options for letting guests know where you are registered, merely to avoid having guests feel like more importance is placed on the gift-receiving rather than the event itself. Need a couple ideas? We recommend the following:

  • Set up a wedding website and include an enclosure card with the web address (or put it on the invitation if needed) with a registry page. This way, guests will automatically know to check out the site for gift ideas—and no registry information will be with the invite at all.
  • Have your maid of honor and best man spread the word. He or she (or both!) can include the information on shower invitations and share it by word of mouth to make sure the registries get circulated.

Still, for many couples, registry cards are the easiest option. And since there are more and more efforts being made to condense paper items down and be more environmentally friendly, many will argue that this is an appropriate way to share registry information. If you decide to include a registry card with your wedding invitations, make sure it is behind the invitation itself—and as understated as possible.

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August 22

Addressing Invitations: Today’s Diva Dish

Today’s Diva Dish came from a Facebook fan who’s getting ready to address her wedding invitations:

Hi Divas,

Ladies first, right? (names on the invites, that is).

-Angela


We’re glad you asked, Angela. For most of the addressing that we have seen, this is actually not the case! Here’s what we recommend…

For married couples, it is typical to have the husband’s name first:

Formal (with titles):  Mr. & Mrs. Patrick James

Casual:  Patrick & Alyssa James

For unmarried couples, it is usually suggested that the person whom the couple is closest to is first.

If couple is closest to the male, or if couple is equally close to both people, the male name is usually first:

Formal: Mr. Javier Ramirez & Ms. Melinda Torres

Casual: Javier Ramirez & Melinda Torres

If couple is closest to female:

Formal: Ms. Jamie McGuff & Mr. Tony Pederson

Casual: Jamie McGuff & Tony Pederson

If guest’s name is unknown, then known name is always first:

Formal: Ms. Lindsey Quill & Guest

Casual: Lindsey Quill & Guest

If couple is choosing to include children and/or family, typically they will add the following when addressing the invitations:

Mr. & Mrs. Patrick Jones and family

We hope this helps. Happy envelope addressing!

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August 8

When Should I Send My Save the Date? Today’s Diva Dish

You said “Yes!” You and your future-hubby have decided on a destination wedding. Wondering when you should send your save the date out? You’re not alone. Take this reader’s question, for instance…

Dear Divas,

I’m getting married August 2012 in Maui, Hawaii (I live in Canada) and I just ordered the save the date cards. Will probably send them in July/August. I wanna give people as much time as possible to save and plan for such a trip. Is this sufficient?

-Chelsea

Destination wedding timing can be tricky, so this is a great question. Here’s what our etiquette experts have to say…

Save the dates are often sent out anywhere from four months before the wedding to up to a year or more prior, depending on whether the event will be a destination wedding, if majority of people are coming from out of town, whether it’s on a holiday, etc. We suggest sending the save the dates out as soon as you gather all of the important information (hotel group rates, rental car info, travel agent contact info), even up to a year ahead of time.

We also suggest setting up a website with all of this important travel information and referencing the web address on your save the date cards. It’s always best to provide as much information to your guests on travel and as early as possible to make planning easier for all parties. However, if you’re having a smaller wedding with most of the guest living locally or close by, it is not as necessary to send out save the dates as far in advance. In this case, four to six months beforehand would be sufficient.

We hope this helps, Chelsea. Good luck planning your dreamy destination wedding!

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August 1

Multiple Parents, Multiple Worries: Today’s Diva Dish

If you have parents who have remarried and aren’t sure how to word your wedding programs, our etiquette expert’s may have the answers you’re seeking. Take this reader’s dilemma, for instance…

Hi Divas,

My parents divorced years ago and my dad has since remarried, but my mom has not remarried. I want to list “Parents of the Bride” on my wedding programs, but I’m not sure where (if at all?) to include my stepmother. What’s the best way to go about this without hurting anyone’s feelings?

—Marci

Thanks so much for writing in, Marci. Rest assured, you’re certainly not the first stressed out bride-to-be with this worry. Here’s what our etiquette experts suggest:

The easiest way to avoid any hard feelings is to include everyone. Like so…

Parents of the Bride

Mrs. Biological Mother

Mr. & Mrs. Biological Father (which includes your stepmom)

This way, no one will get left out—allowing everyone to focus on being a part of your special day.

Do you agree with our advice for Marci? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

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July 21

Are Bridal Shower Favors a Must-Have? Today’s Diva Dish

Planning your best friend’s bridal shower? We know how costs can add up. Take this reader, for instance, who wrote us in a party planning pickle…

I’m the MOH for my best friend’s wedding. The other bridesmaids and I are currently planning her bridal shower and we’re all chipping in for the invitations, food and decorations… but I’m not sure we’ll have budget leftover for party favors. Are they a must-have?

Help an MOH out!

Don’t worry, MOH… we’ve received this question countless times! Like most parts of traditional wedding planning, shower favors aren’t required—but it’s definitely a nice gesture to have something for guests to take home. It’s not so much whether or not favors are a must, but more a matter of how to find something inexpensive that doesn’t lack quality or style.

Have you had a chance to browse our Beau-coup favor boutique? There are loads of practical wedding favors, offering you an easy (and chic!) way to delight shower guests without breaking the bank. Here are a few of our favorites…

Cherry Blossom Glass Coasters—as low as 95¢ each

Swish Handle Cup and Saucer Sets—as low as $2.50 each

Stainless Steel Spreader with Wine Cork Handle—as low as $1.95 each

Damask Glass Tea Light Holders—as low as $1.60 each

Personalized Love Story Notes—as low as $1.30 each

Even if these favors don’t fit into your shower budget, you can still set up a candy or cookie bar and order these personalized goodie bags for only 60¢ each. That way everyone will go home with a sweet treat… and you’ll still stay well within your price limit.

Good luck with the rest of your shower planning!

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June 27

Notes on Wedding Attire: Today’s Diva Dish

If your wedding celebration is taking place in a non-traditional venue like a barn, winery or beach, it might be best to inform guests how to dress for the elements. What’s the best way to do so? Take this Wedding Paper Divas fan’s question, for instance…

We want to include a note about attire in our enclosure cards, but aren’t sure how to describe the feel. we’re getting married at a venue that has a grassy area for the ceremony and a barn with a cement floor for the reception/dancing. any suggestions? i don’t want to call it garden attire and we don’t want people showing up in jeans either. Thanks in advance! —Melissa B.


This is a great question, especially with outdoor wedding season upon us. We recommend using casual attire, but emphasizing the no jeans request. Describing the setting will also help guests get dressed appropriately. Something like: “Ceremony will be in a grassy area and reception will follow in the barn. Please dress smart casual with comfortable shoes. Please no jeans.” For more attire tips and tricks, check out this great cheat sheet from The Knot.

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June 13

Who Should Walk Me Down the Aisle? Today’s Diva Dish

We recently hosted a live Etiquette Q&A on our Facebook page and received a wide array of questions from brides-to-be planning their big day. Take this one for instance…

What should I do about having a father, that I don’t speak to much, and a step-father who I speak to all the time… mystep-dad is in a wheelchair, so it may be difficult for him to “walk” me down the aisle, (beach/grass lawn). Whats the appropriate way to address the situation??? —Vanessa E.


Here are what our Etiquette Experts recommended…

This is a tough situation, and really depends on who you want to have walk you down the aisle. Since you seem close to your stepfather and he’s been important in your life, it would be pretty special to have him by your side. Maybe instead, have your stepfather be up front to give you away.

And a few Wedding Paper Divas fans offered up their best advice, too…

I am dealing with the exact same thing. I am afraid I will cause an uproar in the family if I don’t have my dad walk me down the aisle so I decided to just have BOTH of them walk me down the aisle. My step father is aware of my feelings and completely understands. —Shauna M.

I think this is YOUR day and you should have the person you want walking you down the aisle. It may cause an uproar, but when you look at pictures don’t you want to see the person who meant so much to you walking you down the aisle rather than someone you really didn’t want doing it!? I think the moment and the memory will be sweeter if you choose the person who has more meaning in your life. —Kelsey D.

Do you have any advice to offer Vanessa? What would you do in this situation? Leave us a comment below!

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May 23

Addressing the +1 Dilemma: Today’s Diva Dish

Over the weekend, we asked you on our Facebook page what you had to cut in order to stay within your budget. One reader’s response posed an etiquette question that we’ve seen time and again…

Many people put children and plus one—exactly how do you politely indicate additional guests (plus one) aren’t included? There is no way we can cut children, but there are A LOT of plus ones that we could do away with. How do you go about doing that in a tasteful manner?

Thank you in advance!

-Brandi


Not to worry, Brandi. Our etiquette experts have a few solutions for you…

The most traditional, etiquette friendly way is to address only that person’s name on the inner envelope. When allowing people a “plus one” write “and guest” on the envelope. Since most people aren’t as familiar with that formality, you can limit it on the response card or include a small note. We’ve seen people add a note on their response cards along the lines of: “Unfortunately, due to space constraints in our venue, we are unable to accommodate additional guests.”

You can also tell each guest how many are invited, using these formats: “We have reserved ____ seats for you.” You could enter “1″ there for people who aren’t allowed to bring a date or you can use “___ of ___ will attend.” In the second blank, you write the total invited (1 for single, 4 for family with kids, etc.) The guest will fill in the first blank with their response of how many will be able to come.

We hope this helps!

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May 9

A Save the Date Dilemma: Today’s Diva Dish

When it comes to numbers and guest lists, we know etiquette can get a little sticky. Take this reader’s question into consideration…

Hello,

I have a wedding invitation etiquette question.  I sent out save the date cards a few months ago.  If someone tells me that they cannot attend the wedding based on the save the date card, do I still send them a wedding invitation?

Thank you!

Courtney


Thanks so much for writing in, Courtney!

Luckily, this etiquette question has a pretty simple solution. Our experts agree that it’s still necessary to send a formal wedding invitation, even if your guest tells you they won’t be able to attend after receiving your save the date. Not only is it a nice formality, but leaving them off your invite list after you’ve already sent them a save the date may result in (easily avoidable) hurt feelings. Plus, you never know if their plans will change!

Do you agree with our advice for Courtney? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

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March 21

A Post-Wedding Celebration: Today’s Diva Dish

Sometimes family and friends can’t be there for the wedding itself, so an after-the-fact celebration is necessary. How do invitations work for a post-wedding celebration? Find out in our response to this reader’s question:

Dear Divas,

I am hosting a reception in honor of the marriage of my daughter, which took place last November in Jerusalem, Israel. None of her family or friends attended. Therefore, they will be invited to help them celebrate upon their arrival here at home in July. I don’t know whether to send wedding invitations, save the date cards or party invites.

It is rather informal compared to a traditional reception, yet nonetheless one that will include cocktails, dinner and dancing. This gathering will celebrate a homecoming, congratulations on your marriage and farewell again (as they plan to go back there to live). Any advice would be greatly appreciated!

Thanks,

Kathy

Thanks so much for writing in, Kathy! Here’s what our etiquette experts suggest:

  • Save the Date Cards: If you are inviting anyone from out of town or anyone who will need to make any sort of arrangements in advance in order to attend the event, we would strongly recommend sending save the date cards. They let everyone know that the big event is coming up soon.
  • Wedding Invitations vs. Party Invitations: We recommend sending wedding invitations, but selecting a design that matches the more casual feel of your event. We also think our new collection of photo wedding invitations would work perfectly in your situation, since it will allow you to use photos from the wedding in your design. Here are a few examples:

  • Suggested Verse: Here’s a sample of what the text could look like:

[BRIDE'S PARENTS] are happy to announce
the recent marriage of their daughter
[BRIDE'S NAME] to [GROOM'S NAME]
on November X, 2010 in Jerusalem, Israel

Please help welcome the happy couple home
at a reception in their honor…

Do you agree with our advice for Kathy? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.

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