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September 19

Where Can I Put My Registry Cards? Today’s Diva Dish

We’ve been getting a lot of registry questions lately, so we’re dedicating today’s Diva Dish to the tricky topic. Take this Facebook fan’s question for instance…

Where (if anywhere?) can I put my registry cards?

-Tori

Many different resources will suggest that including registry information with your wedding invitations is less than ideal. If possible, we suggest looking at other options for letting guests know where you are registered, merely to avoid having guests feel like more importance is placed on the gift-receiving rather than the event itself. Need a couple ideas? We recommend the following:

  • Set up a wedding website and include an enclosure card with the web address (or put it on the invitation if needed) with a registry page. This way, guests will automatically know to check out the site for gift ideas—and no registry information will be with the invite at all.
  • Have your maid of honor and best man spread the word. He or she (or both!) can include the information on shower invitations and share it by word of mouth to make sure the registries get circulated.

Still, for many couples, registry cards are the easiest option. And since there are more and more efforts being made to condense paper items down and be more environmentally friendly, many will argue that this is an appropriate way to share registry information. If you decide to include a registry card with your wedding invitations, make sure it is behind the invitation itself—and as understated as possible.

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August 22

Addressing Invitations: Today’s Diva Dish

Today’s Diva Dish came from a Facebook fan who’s getting ready to address her wedding invitations:

Hi Divas,

Ladies first, right? (names on the invites, that is).

-Angela


We’re glad you asked, Angela. For most of the addressing that we have seen, this is actually not the case! Here’s what we recommend…

For married couples, it is typical to have the husband’s name first:

Formal (with titles):  Mr. & Mrs. Patrick James

Casual:  Patrick & Alyssa James

For unmarried couples, it is usually suggested that the person whom the couple is closest to is first.

If couple is closest to the male, or if couple is equally close to both people, the male name is usually first:

Formal: Mr. Javier Ramirez & Ms. Melinda Torres

Casual: Javier Ramirez & Melinda Torres

If couple is closest to female:

Formal: Ms. Jamie McGuff & Mr. Tony Pederson

Casual: Jamie McGuff & Tony Pederson

If guest’s name is unknown, then known name is always first:

Formal: Ms. Lindsey Quill & Guest

Casual: Lindsey Quill & Guest

If couple is choosing to include children and/or family, typically they will add the following when addressing the invitations:

Mr. & Mrs. Patrick Jones and family

We hope this helps. Happy envelope addressing!

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August 8

When Should I Send My Save the Date? Today’s Diva Dish

You said “Yes!” You and your future-hubby have decided on a destination wedding. Wondering when you should send your save the date out? You’re not alone. Take this reader’s question, for instance…

Dear Divas,

I’m getting married August 2012 in Maui, Hawaii (I live in Canada) and I just ordered the save the date cards. Will probably send them in July/August. I wanna give people as much time as possible to save and plan for such a trip. Is this sufficient?

-Chelsea

Destination wedding timing can be tricky, so this is a great question. Here’s what our etiquette experts have to say…

Save the dates are often sent out anywhere from four months before the wedding to up to a year or more prior, depending on whether the event will be a destination wedding, if majority of people are coming from out of town, whether it’s on a holiday, etc. We suggest sending the save the dates out as soon as you gather all of the important information (hotel group rates, rental car info, travel agent contact info), even up to a year ahead of time.

We also suggest setting up a website with all of this important travel information and referencing the web address on your save the date cards. It’s always best to provide as much information to your guests on travel and as early as possible to make planning easier for all parties. However, if you’re having a smaller wedding with most of the guest living locally or close by, it is not as necessary to send out save the dates as far in advance. In this case, four to six months beforehand would be sufficient.

We hope this helps, Chelsea. Good luck planning your dreamy destination wedding!

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August 1

Multiple Parents, Multiple Worries: Today’s Diva Dish

If you have parents who have remarried and aren’t sure how to word your wedding programs, our etiquette expert’s may have the answers you’re seeking. Take this reader’s dilemma, for instance…

Hi Divas,

My parents divorced years ago and my dad has since remarried, but my mom has not remarried. I want to list “Parents of the Bride” on my wedding programs, but I’m not sure where (if at all?) to include my stepmother. What’s the best way to go about this without hurting anyone’s feelings?

—Marci

Thanks so much for writing in, Marci. Rest assured, you’re certainly not the first stressed out bride-to-be with this worry. Here’s what our etiquette experts suggest:

The easiest way to avoid any hard feelings is to include everyone. Like so…

Parents of the Bride

Mrs. Biological Mother

Mr. & Mrs. Biological Father (which includes your stepmom)

This way, no one will get left out—allowing everyone to focus on being a part of your special day.

Do you agree with our advice for Marci? What would you recommend? Leave us a comment and let us know!

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July 21

Are Bridal Shower Favors a Must-Have? Today’s Diva Dish

Planning your best friend’s bridal shower? We know how costs can add up. Take this reader, for instance, who wrote us in a party planning pickle…

I’m the MOH for my best friend’s wedding. The other bridesmaids and I are currently planning her bridal shower and we’re all chipping in for the invitations, food and decorations… but I’m not sure we’ll have budget leftover for party favors. Are they a must-have?

Help an MOH out!

Don’t worry, MOH… we’ve received this question countless times! Like most parts of traditional wedding planning, shower favors aren’t required—but it’s definitely a nice gesture to have something for guests to take home. It’s not so much whether or not favors are a must, but more a matter of how to find something inexpensive that doesn’t lack quality or style.

Have you had a chance to browse our Beau-coup favor boutique? There are loads of practical wedding favors, offering you an easy (and chic!) way to delight shower guests without breaking the bank. Here are a few of our favorites…

Cherry Blossom Glass Coasters—as low as 95¢ each

Swish Handle Cup and Saucer Sets—as low as $2.50 each

Stainless Steel Spreader with Wine Cork Handle—as low as $1.95 each

Damask Glass Tea Light Holders—as low as $1.60 each

Personalized Love Story Notes—as low as $1.30 each

Even if these favors don’t fit into your shower budget, you can still set up a candy or cookie bar and order these personalized goodie bags for only 60¢ each. That way everyone will go home with a sweet treat… and you’ll still stay well within your price limit.

Good luck with the rest of your shower planning!

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June 27

Notes on Wedding Attire: Today’s Diva Dish

If your wedding celebration is taking place in a non-traditional venue like a barn, winery or beach, it might be best to inform guests how to dress for the elements. What’s the best way to do so? Take this Wedding Paper Divas fan’s question, for instance…

We want to include a note about attire in our enclosure cards, but aren’t sure how to describe the feel. we’re getting married at a venue that has a grassy area for the ceremony and a barn with a cement floor for the reception/dancing. any suggestions? i don’t want to call it garden attire and we don’t want people showing up in jeans either. Thanks in advance! —Melissa B.


This is a great question, especially with outdoor wedding season upon us. We recommend using casual attire, but emphasizing the no jeans request. Describing the setting will also help guests get dressed appropriately. Something like: “Ceremony will be in a grassy area and reception will follow in the barn. Please dress smart casual with comfortable shoes. Please no jeans.” For more attire tips and tricks, check out this great cheat sheet from The Knot.

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