Tag Archives: bridesmaids

January 14

Ask Etta: Choosing Bridesmaids

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Stephanie asks…

I have been very torn with the decision of picking bridesmaids. I am lucky to have many wonderful friends, plus a big family. I have been in several weddings, and many of my friends are recently also just getting engaged. I would like to have a smaller wedding party, but I also don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings.

If I was in a friend’s wedding or if a friend asks me to be in her wedding, am I obligated to ask her to be a bridesmaid? If I end up picking everyone, how many is too many?

Etta says…

Choosing your attendants can be tough when you are lucky enough to have a large group of friends and close family members. But you are never – and I mean never! – obligated to ask someone to be a bridesmaid, even if you were part of their wedding. Remember, relationships evolve over time. When selecting your bridal party, the best advice is to follow your heart. Choose the friends and family members that will make you feel the most comfortable on what is sure to be a very nerve-wracking day.

There is no hard and fast rule for how many bridesmaids are too many. Past etiquette called for one attendant per fifty guests, but adherence to that number has declined. Instead, think about the number that you couldn’t do without. You should have no regrets about your bridal party, both for who you choose to be a part of it, and who is not.

If you think that a friend may be hurt to not be asked to be a bridesmaid, I suggest that you be upfront with telling her the news. Let her know, carefully, that you are keeping the bridal party small. Try to find another role for your friend. Perhaps she could do a reading during the ceremony, or give a toast at the rehearsal dinner. This way, you are still incorporating her into your special day while also having a bridal party that feels comfortable to you.

I hope this helps, Stephanie!


Have an etiquette question for Etta? Email us at blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and she’ll post an answer for you.


January 13

Rant or Rave: Un-Asking a Bridesmaid

For one reason or another, sometimes the occasion arises when a bride-to-be has to ask a bridesmaid not to be a part of the wedding. Whether it’s because of a falling out, financial reasons or something much more complicated—this is a topic with heated opinions.

Here is a what a few of our Facebook fans had to say:

“Yeah, if you’re also uninviting her to the wedding. I feel like the only thing that could justify such a move would also justify a breach in the friendship.” -Brenda

“I would say it would depend on the situation. I didn’t have to un-ask anyone but our wedding is a little less than 4 months away & one of my bridesmaids dropped out. Sad part is, I thought she was my best friend. Weddings let everyone’s true colors shine!!” -Amanda

“Ha… Yes, it sure is!!! this is one of the most special days of my life & your bridesmaids are supposed to be your closest friends/family. If they don’t bother to care about it, then they don’t deserve to share the day with you!” – Nicole

“i dont think its respectful to un ask them…unless they cant afford it.” -Becky

“Kinda I wish I could start over and make more dependable friends and have them be my maids:(” -Amber

Would you ever un-ask a bridesmaid? Did you have to do it? Do you wish you would’ve? Rant or rave!


October 1

DIY Shoe Clips for Fall

Remember the shoe clip DIY project we posted a few months back? Well, we’re at it again and this time, we’re playing with some chic options and colors for autumn. Whether you’re a bridesmaid looking for a way to dress up subtle shoes or simply want to add some flair to your fall attire… this little project is oh-so-easy.

What You’ll Need

  • Alligator clips (you can find them in the jewelry-making section of most craft stores)
  • Hot glue gun
  • Flowers, bows, ribbons… whatever details the bride loves!

Step 1: Glue

Using your hot glue gun, secure your embellishments to the alligator clips.

Step 2: Clip

Clim ‘em on your favorite pair of pumps.

Step 3: Step Out in Style

Yep, it’s that easy!

If  you try this craft idea yourself, or if you have any DIY ideas to share, send your photos to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post them for all of our fans and followers.


September 23

Rant or Rave: Brides Planning Their Own Bridal Showers

A co-worker recently shared a story of a bridal shower she attended, where the bride had the shower at her sister’s house but did all the planning herself. Right down to the catering, the place cards and the invitations. The sister didn’t even know any of the details.

If your bridesmaids weren’t taking the lead, would you ever plan your own bridal shower? Or would you just go without a shower? Rant or rave!


June 2

Post-Wedding Tips: Confessions of a Bridesmaid

The Wedding Paper Divas headquarters is bustling with bridesmaids helping their friends, siblings and sorority sisters plan their weddings. These are their confessions…

My (now married!) Bride,

Your wedding was a beautiful success! Your bridesmaids looked great (if I do say so, myself), your groom was stunning and you, my dear, were a showstopper. Now that the stresses of planning are over and you’re happily married, I thought I’d share some day-of learnings for future brides and bridesmaids…

1. If there is a bridesmaid wardrobe malfunction minutes before you walk down the aisle, DO. NOT. PANIC. Doing so will only stress out the bride, and that’s the last thing you want. Fix it to the best of your ability, and walk down that aisle with confidence and composure.

2. If your ceremony is in a church (especially in the summertime) make sure to have water and a fanning device on hand. Nothing will put a snafu in the ceremony like a bride on the verge of passing out.

3. Smile! Your face will probably hurt by the end of the day, but your bride will thank you later for it.

4. Relax, and go with the flow. The flower girl might start running the wrong way. Your updo might fall out a little. You might sweat through your bridesmaid dress a little. Remain calm and remember that this is a celebration—and your bride should always be the center of attention!


April 10

Recessionista Shower Planning Tips: Easy (Cheap!) Ways to Dress It Up

If you’re a bridesmaid on a budget and helping to plan a friend’s shower (like many of the staffers here!), this post is for you. We know you love your friend and want them to have an unforgettable shower—and we also know that being a bridesmaid isn’t necessarily a cheap endeavor. So, we’ve gathered some of our favorite (dare we say, effortless?) ideas to help you throw a chic and thoughtful shower, without breaking the bank.

1. Use your leftover bridal shower invitations as centerpieces and decor.

2. Ask guests to bring a dish from home. This way, your fruit platter from Costco will get a little makeover. And, hodgepodge can have a sweet, shabby chic look when done right!

3. Make your own favors. We absolutely adore this DIY mason jar favor idea. Use the bride’s favorite cookie recipe as for a cute personal touch. Plus, you can decorate the jars with a personalized gift tag that matches the invitation or shower theme—they are just $7 for a set of 24!

4. Stack books or wrap styrofoam in fabric to stagger food and add depth to your display table. Really, it doesn’t get easier than this.

5. Use photos as decor and hang them with clothespins or display them in jars like we did during this fun DIY shoot.

Do you have any recessionista shower planning tips to share? Leave us a comment below!


March 26

Mismatched Bridesmaids

As common as it is to have perfectly matching bridesmaids, same dresses and same shoes, some brides are adventurous enough to try a more eclectic approach. The nice thing about having mismatched bridesmaids is that there is a lot of room for adding personality and uniqueness, while still maintaing an overall cohesive look. It will also make for some very colorful and artistic photos!

For a consistent feel, make sure you keep at least one factor similar across all the dresses. You could opt for the same color family and have each bridesmaid in a different shade of that color. Or you could have the same style dress but in all different hues. Another idea would be to have the same color dress in varying prints and patterns. Finally, for a completely unique mix, have your bridesmaids choose all different colors and cuts, but when combined they all reflect a similar style. To maintain that visual cohesiveness, experiment with colors and patterns, but keep hemlines all the same length. Once each bridesmaid is holding the same bouquet in your complimentary wedding colors, everything will instantly look tied together, yet still look very interesting.

What do you think of this trend? Would you consider mismatched dresses for your bridesmaids?


March 25

Should Single Bridal Party Members Get to Bring a Date? Rant or Rave

Week after week, we field an endless array of questions about wedding planning and etiquette—and today we spent some time talking about guest lists and significant others.

According to etiquette authority Emily Post, spouses, fiancées/fiancés, and live-in partners must be invited, while an invitation to a boyfriend or girlfriend is up to the bride and groom’s discretion. Do you agree?

Should guests only be allowed a plus one if they are married, engaged or living with their significant other? What about bridesmaids and groomsmen—should wedding party members be the exception to the rule? Rant or rave about it!