A good friend is attending a wedding this weekend in which one of the bridesmaids insists upon performing a dance for the couple with her boyfriend, who is a professional dancer. It’s not a group of bridesmaids performing, or even something the bride and groom requested—she simply wants to show off her moves as a “gift” to the happy couple.

Would you be flattered that your friends wanted to perform for you, or do you think this kind of showmanship detracts from the couple as the center of attention?

Is it more acceptable for a group of loved ones to perform together, as in this charming video? What defines the boundary between a fun dance performance and a showy display?

Does the idea of a bridal party member’s solo dance performance make you want to rant or rave?

Dear Diva,
My wedding is in a few months, and I just found that my sister-in-law is 5 months pregnant.  She’s one of my bridesmaids, and her dress has already been ordered and paid for.  There is no way she is going to fit in to her dress when the wedding rolls around.  Plus, I’m really worried about how my pictures will look with a pregnant bridesmaid.  It’s superficial, I know, but I can’t help being worried!  What do I do?!
Baby Blues Bride

Dear Baby Blues,
Surprisingly, this is a very common problem with brides and their bridesmaids!  Because of this, your bridal shop is used to dealing with these problems and will definitely be able to help you.  Call your sales rep and explain the situation.  She will most likely order some extra fabric to match the dress so that it can be altered to the correct size when it arrives in the store for the first fitting.  Although it may cost a little extra, your sister-in-law will be so appreciative and will feel much more comfortable on your wedding day.
Regarding your photos, don’t feel bad about questioning how they will look.  This is your once-in-a-lifetime moment, and of course you want everything to be perfect.  The best approach is to first talk to your photographer about your concerns.  Photos can be composed in a million and one ways so as to hide or detract attention from her tummy.  Make sure your photographer snaps shots both with and without the tummy—you never know—in the future you may look back and love remembering her in this stage of life!  Regardless, be sure to handle the situation with sensitivity.  This is a special time for your sister-in-law, and she did not get pregnant to deliberately ruin your wedding.  Everything will work out—good luck!

I loved the wedding dress that Project Runway designer Kenley Collins made so much that I had to post it!  What do you think of the feather silhouette?

I also adore the corresponding bridesmaid dress (even though it’s a little too short for the average person):