Bachelorette parties are supposed to be fun, stylish and silly, encompassing everything that a particular bride could ask for from her girlfriends. But what if the bride wants to jet off to Mexico, Vegas or a tropical island? Would you come along for the ride?

Many brides take their bachelorette party as a fun excuse to get out of town, but some fail to realize that this means their bridesmaids and close friends all feel obligated to dip into their savings to come along for the ride.

As this bachelorette party planning checklist from The Knot attests, it’s important to give the bride the bachelorette experience she wants, but when do you draw the line? Would you sign up for a trip to Palm Springs? New York? Mexico? Europe? Would you be excited or annoyed?

Do out of town bachelorette parties make you want to rant or rave?

Would you ever wear a labeled tee or tank? You know, the ones that have “Bride” or “Groom,” or things like “Just Married” on them. Well, previously I thought I’d never want to tell the world who I was, but these adorable tees have made me reconsider. Personalized shirts are also a great gift for your wedding party–give them out before your night out so they can wear them at the bachelorette party. (photos: Just Married bling tank from Victoria’s Secret, Bachelorette Party in Progress T-shirt from Zazzle, Bride T-shirt from Etsy: Tattletaledesigns, Bride to be T-shirt from Just Jen.)

Then, match your bridal party gifts with this appropriately fun and wildly colorful invitation for a memorable night with the ladies!