September 29

5 Wedding Tips for Making Your Big Day True to the Two of You

We are so excited to share these expert wedding tips from Kristin of Bridentity Crisis!

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As wedding inspiration seems to be around every corner of the Internet, it can be difficult to plan a celebration that is reflective of you and your fiancé, and not filled with trends that are as likely to stay as relevant as Taylor’s #SwiftSquad (amiright?). So today I’m sharing 5 tips on how to make sure your wedding is true to the two of you.

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1. Only include things you LOVE

When I was getting married, the decor detail of the moment was a Mason jar. Mason jars as vases, Mason jars as glasses, even Mason jars as chandeliers. So I thought to myself, “I guess we have to have Mason jars, even though they totally won’t fit in with the black tie art museum wedding we’re planning.” That’s when it hit me: I don’t like Mason jars and they have nothing to do with our vision. So why would I include them? It can be easy to be swayed by details you see on Pinterest boards and in Instagram photos, but you’ll end up being so much happier and less stressed if you cut the extras and keep only what you really love.

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2. Stop comparing your wedding to others. Theirs has nothing to do with yours.
I’ve heard versions of this quote by everyone from Jenna Lyons to Teddy Roosevelt, and while the language may be slightly different, the sentiment is the same. No two couples are alike, nor are their celebrations. So why would you compare your very personal and intimate wedding to someone else’s over-the-top affair? It’s like apples vs. oranges: each is great in its own way.

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3. Listen to your Significant Other’s opinions

I was lucky if my groom so much as looked in my direction when I asked his thoughts on save-the-dates or flowers. However when it came to picking the reception menu, he was the chief planner in charge. Even though he didn’t care about some of the details I felt were incredibly important, he cared a lot about the food, and thus I heeded his opinion. Remember: you don’t need to make every decision together but when your partner does speak up, it’s best to pay attention.

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4. Think to yourself: What will I remember in 10 years?
Spoiler alert: not much. You probably won’t remember what font you used on the invitations or if your cake had one flavor or two (as I type this, I’m currently trying to remember what flavor ours was and have literally no idea, and our wedding was less than three years ago). But you will remember the laughs you shared about clumsy foxtrot steps you took during your couple’s dance lessons. So don’t agonize over the minutiae of every detail and instead enjoy the wedding planning journey. Simple, right?!

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5. Remember: There ARE no rules

And this might be the easiest way to plan a wedding that is authentic, not trendy: You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to. Don’t like lengthy sit down dinners? Then serve your favorite food at stations instead. Hate awkward receptions where no one is dancing? Skip it and do something fun like karaoke! What makes a great wedding is when it feels like the couple. And if that means tacos and a dance party on the beach at sunset? Even better.

Kristin Joy is the founder of Bridentity Crisis, a humorous and helpful blog about how to navigate wedding stress while staying true to yourself. She lives with her husband, son, and two cats in Chicago and is dreaming of planning her second wedding to her same husband (that’s a thing, right?)

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March 25

Ask Etta: Wedding Day Details to Include for Guests

Angie asks…

I am ready to order my wedding invitations, but I am not sure what details to include for my guests. Other than the date, time, and place, what other information should be on the invitation? Our wedding venue is a little tricky to find so I would like to give detailed directions to my guests, but I don’t want the invitation to look cluttered.

Etta says…

I’m going to let you in on a little secret that will help to keep your wedding invitation chic and stylish, and still get all of the information to your guests: Enclosure cards! Enclosure cards are the perfect way to share wedding day details like directions, special requests, and your wedding website with guests. While much of this information should be listed on your wedding website, it should be remembered that not all guests will be internet-savvy. Here are a few ways you can use this handy stationery trick.

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Including directions with your wedding invitation is absolutely necessary if you have a difficult-to-find location. After all, you invited your guests – you want to make sure they can find the venue! However, your wedding invitation is not the place to include these directions. Simply list the directions on an enclosure card that accompanies the wedding invitation. Enclosure cards can even be customized to include a map of your location.

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Special Instructions and Details

Listing nearby accommodation options is also helpful for out-of-town guests. Be sure to note if you have reserved a block of rooms for your wedding. Sometimes a bride will want to share useful information with her guests, like “The reception will be outdoors, so please bring something warm”, or “Shuttles will provided to and from the reception venue.” An enclosure card is the perfect place to convey these messages, and will save you multiple calls or emails to your guests.

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Wedding Website and Social Media

Include your wedding website information on an enclosure card, so that guests know where to find these details, and more. For couples who are encouraging guests to use Instagram or Twitter to share photos during their wedding, including a personalized hashtag on your enclosure card is a fun touch. Alternately, you could include a request for no sharing of photos on social media sites. Our new Mini Enclosure Cards are the perfect size for any extra-special details!

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Gift Preferences

Your wedding registry should never be listed on your invitation. Instead, an enclosure card can be a simple way to announce your registry, or to direct guests to your wedding website for more information. You may prefer that guests do not send or bring gifts, but instead send a donation to a chosen charity. Use an enclosure card to be specific about your preferences.

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I hope this helps, Angie! There are so many fun ways to customize enclosure cards, and to share the details of your wedding day.


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May 21

Ask Etta: Guest List Etiquette

Kimberly asks…

Help! With large families on both sides, high school friends, college friends, work friends, and now my fiancé’s graduate school friends, the guest list for our wedding has gotten out of control. I’ve been told there is a certain percent you can expect to not show up – should I send more wedding invitations to guests than our wedding venue can handle?

Etta says…

This question seems to always confuse brides. While it may seem like a science to create the perfect guest list that keeps everyone happy, there is no hard and fast formula for guest attendance. You’ll hear some experts say to invite 10% over your venue limit, while others claim 20%– and I’ve even seen some pretty complicated math problems put forward! (Hint: if your guest list plans start to resemble your eleventh grade calculus homework, you’re making things too difficult).

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Remember, you might end up accountable for every person on your guest list. After all, if they are important enough to be on your guest list, you may be (and hopefully are!) important enough to them to warrant the travel. Keeping that in mind, I suggest you create two guest lists. The first will be the definitive list of must-invite guests. The second list will be backup guests, listed in prioritized order (think co-workers, club friends, or friends of parents).

Send invitations out to your first list over eight weeks in advance of your wedding date, and ask for RSVP response cards to be returned within just two weeks. This ensures that you receive responses in a timely manner – allowing you to start inviting those from the second list without cutting it too close to the wedding date.

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At the end of the day, you and your fiancé know your friends and family the best. If you know that Great Aunt Mary won’t make the travel to your wedding, but still wants an invite, then by all means, send her an invitation. On the other hand, if you know your groom’s graduate school friends will travel anywhere in the world for a good party, I suggest you make sure you really want them at your wedding.

I hope this helps, Kimberly!

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May 15

Father’s Day Inspiration: Give the Gift of Memories

From the latest tech toy to a new driver for the golf course, there are plenty of options for great gifts for Dad. But to make this Father’s Day extra special, we’re suggesting the gift of time. Clichéd as it may sound, giving Dad a bit of one-on-one time might just be the sweetest gift he receives this year. Here are our ideas for some great activities:

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  • Looking Back: We love the idea of giving Dad a visual reminder of your appreciation for his support on your wedding day, by making a wedding photo album. Pour his favorite cocktail, set out some snacks, and stay in for a night of reminiscing about your wedding celebration.

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  • Make a night of it: Take Dad out for a movie date – his choice, of course! Whether it’s the summer’s hottest blockbuster action movie, or the latest sports biopic, he’ll appreciate getting out of the house and having his choice of the movies Mom won’t see (no sappy romance flicks here). Splurge for the extra large popcorn.
  • Revisiting Old Memories: Take a trip down memory lane and surprise Dad with a visit to your favorite place as a kid. Whether it’s tossing a baseball and playing on the swings at the neighborhood park, or visiting the tigers at the zoo, taking the time to remember the special trips you took as a child will let Dad know you appreciate his time – both then and now.

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  • A Battle of the Minds: Now that you’re both adults, go head to head in a board game with your old man. Or pull out a classic game you loved as a little girl (we’re thinking Candyland, Chutes and Ladders, or Hungry Hungry Hippos).  He’ll probably still let you win – old habits die hard, after all – but the quality one-on-one time is the real prize here.
  • A Quality Call: Live too far from Dad to do one of these activities? Just pick up the phone and call him. Your time and attention are the best gifts he could get this Father’s Day, and making a dedicated call to catch up on life, current events, sports, or whatever he wants to talk about will bring a smile to his face.

Send a Little Love

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Really want to pull at Dad’s heartstrings this Father’s Day? Here are a few tips for writing a note to dear old Dad.

  • Remember the little things:  Did he stay up all night helping you write that book report in fourth grade? Or teach you how to tie your shoes? Pointing out the little moments in which Dad came to the rescue can lead to a larger message of appreciation.
  • Reflect on Inspiration: Let Dad know exactly how he’s inspired you – perhaps in your career, travel choices, extracurriculars, or even in friend choices. By telling Dad how he’s inspired you, you’re reaffirming all the wonderful things about him.
  • Look Forward: You’re at the point in your life where Dad could soon transition to Grandpa. Let him know how excited you are for this next step, and how you know he’ll be a wonderful Grandpa.

We hope these ideas help you make Father’s Day even better this year. Share your own ideas in the comments!


May 14

Ask Etta: Are Wedding Programs Really Necessary?

Tasha asks…

Hello! I was wondering if it is necessary to have programs for the wedding ceremony? Thanks!

Etta says…

Wedding programs are an oft-forgotten piece of a complete wedding stationery suite. While programs aren’t absolutely vital to wedding success (you wouldn’t get very far without a wedding invitation!), including a program at the start of your wedding ceremony offers the bride and groom a special way to include their guests in the ceremony.

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I particularly recommend creating a wedding program if you will be holding a religious ceremony, or one incorporating cultural rites. Explaining to guests why certain passages are read or certain rituals are performed will create a richer experience for all involved.

A wedding program is also the ideal place to list the wedding party, and to thank friends and family for coming to celebrate the happy bride and groom. It is also commonly a space for the couple to acknowledge any deceased loved ones, such as grandparents.


Tip: Passing out ceremony programs is a great kid-friendly job! If you are searching for a way to include a younger niece, nephew, or cousin, I suggest giving them a sweet basket filled with programs to hand out to seated guests. Alternately, ushers traditionally will hand out programs as they direct guests to their seats.

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An added bonus to a wedding program? If your wedding location gets hot, it makes the perfect fan! I have seen great DIY projects that turn programs into fans.

I hope this helps, Tasha!


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February 12

Holding a Pre-Destination Wedding Reception: Ask Etta

While we dish about the hottest trends and latest designs, we also know how stressful prepping for the big day can be. Meet Etta, our expert in all things etiquette. She’s ready to delve into your every dilemma.

Debbie Asks…

My husband and I have a very large group of friends that have been a part of my son’s life, and we want to have a celebration before the destination wedding (definitely not after). We are inviting all the people that will be invited to the destination wedding, plus all our other close friends.  What do I call this type of celebration? And do I have to state “no gifts’? Should I stick an insert with the invitation explaining that we are having a small destination affair?

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Etta Says…

Thanks for writing in, Debbie.

Holding an “at-home” or local celebration is quite common for couples who chose to have a destination wedding. But usually these receptions take place two to six weeks after the marriage ceremony (and thus celebrate the newlyweds).

With no marriage completed, hosting a wedding reception may be a bit misleading for your guests, particularly since the ceremony will still be over half a year away.

Since you are planning the celebration prior to the destination wedding, I suggest that you host a send-off celebration for the engaged couple. I also recommend that your celebration be a casual affair – which it sounds like you are planning.

An engagement party invitation or couples shower invitation can easily be modified to fit this unique celebration. Simply alter the wording along these lines: “Please join us to celebrate the upcoming marriage, and send off the happy couple with your best wishes.”

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It can feel awkward to host a second reception, when attendees have not been invited to the destination ceremony. But remember that you are making an effort to include all loved ones in the celebration of your son’s marriage. It is widely understood that destination weddings are smaller, more intimate events – and your guests will be happy to be included in this larger celebration.

Formal etiquette calls for no mention of gifts on the invitation, even in the case of requesting no gifts. It is appropriate, however, for you to share this information yourself, in casual conversation.

If you do hold the reception after the wedding, a wonderful way to notify guests is through a wedding announcement, along with a photograph from the destination wedding, which requests their attendance at the reception.

I hope this helps, Debbie!


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