Addressing Wedding Invitations

August 14

Wedding Invitation Etiquette: What NOT to Include

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Today we have Wedding Paper Divas style & trend expert, Amber Harrison on our blog sharing some helpful and vital tips for what NOT to include on your beautiful wedding invitations. Amber is our resident authority on the latest wedding trends and etiquette guidelines. She combines tradition, personal style and the hottest trends to help each couple celebrate their unique love story on their big day.

Amber really has us covered this week with some great wedding invitation etiquette that all couples should remember when creating their invitation suite. From registry information to rules regarding children, Amber has tons of information that she is sharing today! If you’re getting ready to order your wedding invitations or if you can hear the bells ringing from a distance away, remember these wedding invitation etiquette tips and tricks! Amber is going to make sure we’re clear on what to avoid printing on that pretty paper!

Hi Friends! That’s right, today on Small Talk Big Day I’m going to make sure you’re clear on what to avoid printing on that pretty paper!

  1. Registry Information: You want your invitation to be about the celebration, not the gifts. Instead of on your invites, include registry information on your wedding website with your shower invitation or use good ole’ fashion word-of-mouth. Your family and wedding party will help spread the word and this will save space on your beautiful invites for specifics regarding venue and wedding date.
  2. Rules Regarding Children:  Leave off any language that encourages guests to leave the kids at home. If you prefer an adults only event, just be very specific when addressing the invitation and only list the names of the guests invited. This is not an uncommon request for almost newlyweds, a lot of couples prefer that children don’t attend the big day. Just remember to be precise and only address the invitation with the names of the guests that are invited.
  3. Food & Beverage Detail: Leave the entree selections to the response card. If you’re having a dry reception or a limited alcohol selection, there’s no need to mention that, your guests will figure it out when they get there. If this feels too limiting, don’t worry, your wedding website or enclosure cards are a great way to share any fun and extra information!

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June 6

Real Bride: Abbie – Wedding Stationery

We are thrilled to have Abbie from All Things Tiffany Blue here today to share her wedding stationery with our readers. Abbie and Matt will be married on July 12, 2014 and today she is sharing her inspiration behind her response cards, and envelope choice.

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Hi Everyone!  I’m Abbie from All Things Tiffany Blue, and I am delighted to take over the blog for the day.  My fiancé, Matt and I, are getting married next month!  One by one our tasks are getting checked off the list and everything is going swimmingly!

Our lovely guests have received their invitations and we could not have asked for better reactions to them!  The words that keep coming out of our loved ones mouths regarding our invitations are “classy”, “beautiful”, and “so you!”

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I love little pops of the unexpected. Being a fashion girl at heart, I often relate a lot of things back to clothing. That said, I believe the most adorable outfits often have a touch of something unexpected in them that seems to create absolute perfection. Think about an all black outfit. It is predictable and safe. However, if you add a bright neon yellow statement necklace and leopard shoes to that monotone outfit, you have created a whole new exciting and Pinterest worthy look. I applied the same principle when creating our invitations. I wanted our guests to receive something that stood out in a crowd but still had classic appeal (much like the fancier outfit spoken of earlier).

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Step one when creating our invitations was choosing fonts, colors, and a theme that felt like us. Matt and I choose to stick with a gray and tiffany blue-eque color palette with burlap reminiscent envelopes that would serve as a prelude for our guests as to gain insight to our wedding decor. Once deciding on a basic color palette of tiffany blue and gray, the artistic styling could begin.

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These invitations were jazzed up with a few elements of the unexpected: calligraphy, envelope liners, belly bands, and photographs. My fabulous mother did fantastic calligraphy on all of our envelopes. We felt that calligraphy added a personalized touch rather than slapping on a printed address label. The next element of unexpectedness is displayed when guests open their inner envelope. Upon doing so, they are greeted by a gorgeous white and Tiffany blue polka dotted liner that helps to add a touch of personality to an otherwise plain envelope.

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When pulling out the card itself, guests will have it all held in place by a monogrammed belly band in our wedding color. This not only helps to create an organized invitation, but also adds an interesting element of color! The final unexpected element that we utilized was placing an engagement session photo on the back of the smaller RSVP cards. Guests have noted the elements that we took the time to perfect and seem incredibly pleased! I could not be more happy with how everything came together. I fully believe that, in the end, be it life, fashion, or wedding invitations, it really is the small things that matter the most!

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More wedding stationery inspiration from Abbie – Save the Dates & Wedding Invitations.

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January 29

Addressing Wedding Invitations with No Plus-Ones: Ask Etta

Brittany Asks…

To cut costs, I would like to have only the people listed on my wedding invitations attend my wedding. Is there a way to suggest that plus-ones are prohibited without seeming tacky?

Also, what is the most polite way to say “no children” or “adults only” and where do we state this?

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Etta Says…

Wedding etiquette regarding plus ones has changed in recent years and there are a few things to consider when preparing your guest list.

The most traditional way to tackle your question is to address only that person’s name on the inner envelope. When allowing people a “plus one” write “and guest” on the envelope. Since most people aren’t as familiar with that formality, you can limit it on the response card or include a small note—where you can ask your guest to list the name of their guest so you can properly address them on the seating chart and place cards.

If you do not wish to invite kiddos to your wedding, simply exclude their name from the invitation. You should never write “no children” or “adults only” on the invite, but if you want to be completely clear you can include “Adult Affair” on the RSVP card. You can also tell each guest how many are invited, using this format: “We have reserved ____ seats for you.” You could enter “1″ there for people who aren’t allowed to bring a date or you can use “___ of ___ will attend” if they’re allowed a guest.

Additional things to consider when inviting guests:

Proper etiquette states that you should invite guests who are living together—not only the married ones.

Also, you should always invite both members of a couple if they are married. Not knowing someone’s partner is no excuse for excluding them from the invitation.


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