A good friend of mine recently found out that an upcoming wedding she’s in has been moved from June to January! She’s in a whirlwind rush to help the bride finalize all of the details, but she is also facing an even bigger dilemma—although she’s the maid of honor, she lives in Connecticut and the bride lives in California.
Should she plan a last minute bachelorette party and bridal shower from Connecticut? Who else might step in to take over these roles? Is it possible to pull off a perfect last minute shower?
What do you think? Does long distance shower planning make you want to rant or rave?
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November 13th, 2009 at 11:43 am
maybe she could have the bridal shower a week before the wedding? They could have one with all the family and friends in the same town the wedding takes place, so that everyone can come, since they’ll have to go there anyway.
November 13th, 2009 at 11:49 am
I’m curious to know answers. I have a situation that has the same long-distance issues but a different time crunch. I’m getting married in October of next year and my MOH is getting married three weeks before. I live in MA, she lives in SC. Both weddings are in SC, but I’m trying to balance going home to plan my wedding stuff with going home to have a shower and parties for her. I don’t want her to miss out just because I’m far away, but taking time off and flying back and forth becomes really hard! Suggestions? I want her special time to be just as special as my own!
November 13th, 2009 at 4:24 pm
planning the bachelorette party weekend ussually isnt hard from any location regardless of distance, you can always pick a location for the bachelorette weekend to be comewhere centralized or where all the girls can fly to easily and or where they have great deals for hotels and flights, like vacatioing areas, Vegas/Cabo/South Beach, depending on which coast most of the girls all reside…but you want to make sure this will be the style for your bride to be, iveplanned numerous bachelorette party weekends where i was on the other coast and the bride to be was on the other, and or many of the guest list was coming from the East coast while a few were coming from the West coast…
If you are already doing a destination bachelorette weekend, i think you can have the other weddingparty ladies do the local bridal shower, you still pitch in your fair share for the costs but you can save on the flight and hotel/travel expenses…
This is how i handled planning for the most recent wedding i was co-MOH in… I live in CA while BTB was in PA. most of her girls were scatter on the East coast, from NY/MI/NC/PA, and after getting her ideads of what she preferred, warm weather, beach locals, we decided south beach for her weekend would be the ideal local for them, and the WC girls would just have to have longer more expensive flights
no biggie there were less of us over here….. We went with majority rule… and whoever could make it, did, and if they couldnt, there would be a local bridal shower that would be thrown in PA.
As for her shower, if she doesnt want to spend the money to come out to cali to plan a bridal shower than another wedding party member or really good friend and you could collaborate on throwing the local CA shower for the bride, easiest solution is to throw it at a restaurant where most of the decor is already done and food is prefixed by you or the co collaborator and limits what the guests can order, plus you can make cute menus that are custom and follow the brides theme. or often times the place will print out the prefixed menu for you… you just need to let them know its for a bridal shower, you will require a table for gifts and would prefer to be in the corner area where you can play simple games that dont require a lot of space/movement
HTH – goodluck
November 13th, 2009 at 6:23 pm
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November 14th, 2009 at 9:34 am
You all look like you are having fun! The bride is lucky to have such great friends willing to do the picture. Awesome! Go ladies.
November 14th, 2009 at 9:22 pm
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November 16th, 2009 at 9:26 am
We picked a central location (VEGAS!) for the bachelorette weekend, since everyone was coming from different states and different parts of the country. My maid of honor is from the same town as me, so she got her mom and my mom to help plan the shower in our home town.
All of my friends from college scattered everywhere since we graduated, so I think it’s just inevitable that this stuff is planned long distance. If brides can plan their whole wedding long distance, anyone can plan from afar!
November 16th, 2009 at 1:19 pm
I planned my wedding from California and got married in NY. For my shower, my MOH and mother shared the duties and planned the event for a date when they knew we’d all be in town to wrap up planning. No surprises! It did take some coordination but it worked out really well, and I had a great time.