Being a bridesmaid can be stressful enough, but being a bridesmaid to a friend who lives multiple states away can feel like an insurmountable challenge.
Out-of-town bridesmaids have to struggle to plan and prep for your wedding remotely, plus the extra burden of paying for flights and hotels for all of your events.
If you have out-of-town bridesmaids, do you expect them to attend your bridal shower and bachelorette party on top of flying in for your entire wedding weekend? Would you be offended if they didn’t? Rant or rave about it!
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December 5th, 2008 at 12:18 pm
I definitely don’t think that out-of-town bridesmaids should be required to attend every pre-wedding festivity and I think expecting them to seems kind of selfish. Just because wedding planning has consumed MY life doesn’t mean it’s all they have going on too
). For my out-of-town bridesmaid, all I really hope is that she gets her dress taken care of and gets to the wedding on time to stand up and party with us 
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December 5th, 2008 at 12:30 pm
I just moved out of the country recently to live with my fiance ever since he proposed to me with a gorgeous diamond engagement ring from http://www.idonowidont.com with a plane ticket to live in the countryside.
It would be nice if all my bridesmaids could attend but I do not expect them to all come because it’s totally out-of-town.
If none of them show up we could have a very small quiet wedding and I wouldn’t be upset at all!
December 5th, 2008 at 12:48 pm
I think it’s a rant to require your bridesmaids to attend all of your activities when they live out of town. With plane fares being astronomical and time being hard to come by, I would never have been upset had my bridesmaids not attended something. I hope I receive the same treatment for weddings I am in in the future!
December 5th, 2008 at 4:32 pm
i think some events are more important that others. for instance, i would make an effort to go to the engagement party or bridal shower but not necessarily the bachelorette party. all of my bridal party was OOT and many didnt even attend the rehearsal/rehearsal dinner – but we made due and it was fine!