One of our coworkers recently got married, so when we were playing our occasional game of “Gather the Most Interesting Engagement Story in the Office” we naturally honed in on him. To our surprise, however, he didn’t propose with a ring on bended knee. In fact, his bride asked him not to!
She says she didn’t want all the gushy fanfare, so they simply talked about whether or not they should get married and agreed upon a decision like mature, responsible adults.
What do you think about skipping the big engagement and going straight into wedding planning? Do you think a proposal is important? Does the idea of no marriage proposal make you want to rant or rave?
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January 29th, 2010 at 9:39 am
It’s a MUST!!! Everyone always wants to hear the proposal story and the more creative, the better!
January 29th, 2010 at 11:12 am
I think it’s one of those things that seem silly and pointless at the time, especially when you both know you love each other and want to spend your life together. But down the line, during the hairy wedding planning or during your first big fight over who does the most around the house, it’s nice to have that really fond memory of a time when your guy went above and beyond to prove to you just how important it is for him to be with you forever.
January 29th, 2010 at 12:13 pm
I think that it really depends on the couple. When we decided to get married, we’d been together for 8 years, through every up and down. We’d been talking about marriage since two weeks after we started dating (when he said “I’m going to marry you” – does that count as a proposal?). So marriage had always been on the table, and a discussion and mutual choosing of the ring seemed more appropriate for us than any fanfare or romantic overtures.
January 31st, 2010 at 5:03 am
Different things work for different people. For me it was a must. Even though my husband and I knew we were going to marry eachother, it made it official and allowed us to move forward to plan for the wedding and our future. It is something that after 7 1/2 years we still talk about and enjoy sharing with others!