Rant or Rave: Inviting the Ex
Exes pose an interesting problem for engaged couples. When a person remains close friends with exes and asks to invite them to the ceremony, his or her future spouse might be prone to feelings of jealousy (which could cause extra, unneeded tension during the wedding planning process). Some argue that exes should be summarily excluded from your wedding no matter what the circumstances, while others contend that you should be allowed to invite all of your close friends regardless of your romantic history with them.
I personally have an ex-boyfriend who is so well integrated into my social circle, I don’t even think of him as a former flame anymore. I think it would be silly to leave him off the guest list, but I’m not so sure my future husband would feel the same way. What do you think? Would you ever invite an ex to your wedding? Under what circumstances? And, if your future spouse invited an ex, would it make you want to rant or rave?
Tags: guest list, invitations, Rant or Rave
September 19th, 2008 at 8:17 am
I feel that if I were truly over an ex I wouldn’t look at them any differently for the guest list than any other friend. So, to me, it depends how close I am to that person. I plan to have a small wedding. If they are one of my closest friends, then I will invite them no matter what they used to mean to me. If my future husband was jealous, that either means one of a few things: I am not over the person, I am not doing a good job of portraying that I am over that person or I have invested time in someone who is overbearing and controlling. If you’re starting off a marriage with unnecessary jealousy I am not so sure that’s a good sign for the future.
September 19th, 2008 at 8:37 am
I think it all depends how long ago the breakup was, how things have moved forward from there and if everyone involved is a secure, level headed adult.
Then there are no problems!