Almost any bride will tell you that random gifts (like Aunt Louise’s infamous handmade paper mache coasters) are practically inevitable, but there are a few things you can do to help direct your guests’ gift purchases a little more carefully. Here’s our best advice for a reader who wrote in asking:
I love my extended family, but they all have styles that are VERY different than mine and my fiance’s. I’m worried they are all going to shop off the registry, and I don’t want to hurt their feelings if they send us something we don’t like. What advice do you have for handling this sort of situation?
Guilty But Grateful
Don’t worry—this is what gift registries are for! And there are a few things you can do when you create your registries to help ensure that everyone can find something:
- Make sure there are enough items on your registry for all of the people on your guest list (not just the ones who RSVP yes!)
- Pay attention to price points. If people can’t find something within their price range, they’re sure to go off the grid…
- If you want cash, register for gift cards, a honeymoon registry or some other tangible way for people to give it to you.
If you do end up with random gifts, don’t feel guilty returning them. People understand that weddings are expensive, and we’re sure they’d want you to enjoy their gesture. If you can’t return them to major department stores, you can keep the gifts and enjoy the funny stories behind them or donate them to charity—whatever makes you happy and causes you less stress!
What advice would you give to a bride in this situation? Leave us a comment and let us know!
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