We know that a lot of mothers of the bride stress out about their outfits for the big day, so were more than happy to address this etiquette question from one of our readers:
My mom is stressing out about having to work with the mother of the groom in coordinating their outfits. What’s the etiquette around selecting mother of the bride and mother of the groom dresses?
Thanks for the email, Tanya! Here’s our best advice for mother of the bride outfit etiquette:
- The mother of the bride selects her dress first, then the mother of the groom chooses something that coordinates with her initial selection.
- Choose a style and length that match the formality of the wedding itself—long dresses for formal weddings, shorter dresses for more casual events.
- Take into consideration what the bride and bridesmaids are wearing and select a style and color that coordinate with—but aren’t too matchy matchy with—their outfits.
- We recommend that the mother of the groom waits until the mother of the bride actually purchases the dress before she makes her decision, but that also means the mother of the bride can’t wait too long to make her choice.
What other advice would you offer to Tanya and her mother? Leave us a comment and let us know!
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