February 14

Mother of the Bride Outfit Etiquette

We know that a lot of mothers of the bride stress out about their outfits for the big day, so were more than happy to address this etiquette question from one of our readers:

Dear Divas,

My mom is stressing out about having to work with the mother of the groom in coordinating their outfits. What’s the etiquette around selecting mother of the bride and mother of the groom dresses?



Thanks for the email, Tanya! Here’s our best advice for mother of the bride outfit etiquette:

  • The mother of the bride selects her dress first, then the mother of the groom chooses something that coordinates with her initial selection.
  • Choose a style and length that match the formality of the wedding itself—long dresses for formal weddings, shorter dresses for more casual events.
  • Take into consideration what the bride and bridesmaids are wearing and select a style and color that coordinate with—but aren’t too matchy matchy with—their outfits.
  • We recommend that the mother of the groom waits until the mother of the bride actually purchases the dress before she makes her decision, but that also means the mother of the bride can’t wait too long to make her choice.

What other advice would you offer to Tanya and her mother? Leave us a comment and let us know!

Do you have a question for our wedding experts? Send your etiquette, wedding planning or style dilemma to blog@weddingpaperdivas.com and we’ll post an answer for you.


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Katie M. is a Writer at Wedding Paper Divas. She has the privilege of viewing nearly every piece of stationery before it goes up on the website, giving her the ultimate inside scoop on upcoming trends in the stationery world. She loves classic designs with a surprising twist, and enjoys finding new ways to express her ever-evolving personal style—a blend of traditional glamour and bohemian whimsy that makes Wedding Paper Divas a perfect fit! In addition to her love for writing, Katie is obsessed with health and fitness, skincare, UC Santa Barbara, all things adorable, the beach, dancing, cooking, getting real mail, fresh flowers, discount shopping, and shoes (who isn’t?). Katie is a contributing editor to Diva Dialogue. Be sure to check out her recurring feature, “Rant or Rave.”

3 thoughts on “Mother of the Bride Outfit Etiquette

  1. selina fono

    Hi Diva Dish my daughter is getting married on 26th Nov 2011, could you please help me with outfit. the colour of the bridemaids is royal blue. I find it hard to find an outfit because I’m a minister’s wife. can you help me.


  2. Valerie McGill

    I was wondering if it would be alright if I carried my clutch purse down the isle. I will be being escorted by my son who will be wearing a suit.

  3. Jessy

    Hi Valerie, thanks for your question. We typically recommend leaving personal belongings (other than bouquets, of course!) in your seat, in advance of your trip down the aisle. You can, of course, always get the bride and groom’s opinion too. Hope this helps.


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