August 13

Can We Ask for Cash Instead of Gifts? Today’s Diva Dish

For whatever reason, some couples would rather collect cash than gather gifts from their wedding guests. Take this stressed out reader, for instance:

Dear Divas,

My fiance and I have been living together for quite a while, so we’ve already set up house. We don’t need any of the things people normally register for, so we were hoping to encourage our guests to donate money to our honeymoon instead. Is that appropriate?

Thanks for your help!

Honeymoon Hannah

Dear Hannah,

Thanks for writing in! We know this is a common question that many engaged couples share, so we are glad you voiced your concern. The truth of the matter is that you shouldn’t request any type of gift at all on your invitations—by including your registry information (even on an enclosure card!) you make it seem as though guests must bring gifts in order to attend. Although adding registry information to wedding invitations has become more common in recent years, it is most certainly frowned upon as a sign of poor etiquette.

Instead, we recommend trusting your bridesmaids and family members to spread the word about where you are registered (or your preference for cash) in a tactful way. You can also include this information on your wedding website (Wedding Paper Divas offers websites to match your invitations for free!) with a link to your registry.

As far as requesting cash goes, it’s perfectly understandable. There are elegant ways to show people that you are saving for your honeymoon as well, including online honeymoon registries that people can use to submit their donations.

We do suggest that you register for a few things you could use, however, because some people simply don’t feel comfortable giving cash as a gift. Maybe there are some new linens you had your eye on, or a new set of wine glasses you could use? For some of your guests, it will be nice to have that option.

Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning!

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Katie M. is a Writer at Wedding Paper Divas. She has the privilege of viewing nearly every piece of stationery before it goes up on the website, giving her the ultimate inside scoop on upcoming trends in the stationery world. She loves classic designs with a surprising twist, and enjoys finding new ways to express her ever-evolving personal style—a blend of traditional glamour and bohemian whimsy that makes Wedding Paper Divas a perfect fit! In addition to her love for writing, Katie is obsessed with health and fitness, skincare, UC Santa Barbara, all things adorable, the beach, dancing, cooking, getting real mail, fresh flowers, discount shopping, and shoes (who isn’t?). Katie is a contributing editor to Diva Dialogue. Be sure to check out her recurring feature, “Rant or Rave.”

2 thoughts on “Can We Ask for Cash Instead of Gifts? Today’s Diva Dish

  1. Dana

    We couldn’t agree more that the wedding website is the perfect place to subtly communicate your registry to guests. Most will appreciate having the information handy in an easily accessible place.

    The question about how to communicate a preference for cash gifts towards an important goal or experience is exactly the reason that our site, Deposit a Gift, exists. Couples register with us for everything from honeymoons to home down payments, newlywed activities to charities in a fun and personal way so the sentimentality of giving is not lost. And we also provide space for links to your other registries, so it truly is fun and easy for everyone. Check out some samples, and if you’d like personal help, feel free to contact me directly: http://www.depositagift.com/sampleRegistries

    Cheers!

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  2. Riley

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