For whatever reason, some couples would rather collect cash than gather gifts from their wedding guests. Take this stressed out reader, for instance:
My fiance and I have been living together for quite a while, so we’ve already set up house. We don’t need any of the things people normally register for, so we were hoping to encourage our guests to donate money to our honeymoon instead. Is that appropriate?
Thanks for your help!
Thanks for writing in! We know this is a common question that many engaged couples share, so we are glad you voiced your concern. The truth of the matter is that you shouldn’t request any type of gift at all on your invitations—by including your registry information (even on an enclosure card!) you make it seem as though guests must bring gifts in order to attend. Although adding registry information to wedding invitations has become more common in recent years, it is most certainly frowned upon as a sign of poor etiquette.
Instead, we recommend trusting your bridesmaids and family members to spread the word about where you are registered (or your preference for cash) in a tactful way. You can also include this information on your wedding website (Wedding Paper Divas offers websites to match your invitations for free!) with a link to your registry.
As far as requesting cash goes, it’s perfectly understandable. There are elegant ways to show people that you are saving for your honeymoon as well, including online honeymoon registries that people can use to submit their donations.
We do suggest that you register for a few things you could use, however, because some people simply don’t feel comfortable giving cash as a gift. Maybe there are some new linens you had your eye on, or a new set of wine glasses you could use? For some of your guests, it will be nice to have that option.
Good luck with the rest of your wedding planning!
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