This is a fairly common question with a pretty steadfast answer, so we wanted to address them all in one big bundle. Here are just a few of the scenarios posited by readers:
- I had a falling out with a friend. Can I take back her wedding invitation?
- My two aunts are in a fight, and they say they can’t stand to be in the same room. Should I un-invite one?
- My brother and his girlfriend broke up, but she and I are close friends and I still want her to attend the wedding. Do I have to rethink my guest list?
In all of these cases, our team of etiquette experts agrees—wedding invitations cannot be recalled. Once your invitations are out, they’re out, so be sure to carefully comb through your guest list before sending them to your family and friends.
As far as fights and awkward encounters are concerned, you have three options:
- Try to reconcile if you’re involved. After all, your wedding should be the start of your happily ever after!
- Talk to each injured party about your expectations for the big day (if it’s appropriate).
- Trust that your loved ones are more interested in seeing you happy than fighting during the chicken dance.
Like many issues that crop up during wedding planning, we think this type of situation can usually be fixed with a little patience, understanding and communication. Do you agree? What advice would you give in the same situations?
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