What is the proper etiquette for sending out thank you cards? My bridesmaids are hosting a bridal shower for me just one month before my wedding date. Along with that, wedding gifts have already started to arrive! I know I am going to be swamped with wedding tasks in the coming weeks, and will have little time for thank you cards.
When do I need to send my thank you notes? Do you have any advice for making this to-do list item a little easier?
This is a great question, Samantha. Writing thank you cards has become a dreaded task for many brides, when it really should be a pleasant activity.
First and foremost, it’s important to remember why you are writing these thank you notes – because you are surrounded by loving and caring individuals. Beyond the gifts they may give, you are really expressing thanks for your friends and family who have taken time out of their schedules (and, quite often, have spent money and effort to travel) to celebrate in your special day. Looking at your ever-growing thank you list in this mindset may help bring some joy to the task!
I recommend sending thank you notes within two weeks of a bridal shower. Usually, your bridal shower is much smaller than your wedding guest list, so it will take less time to complete the thank you notes.
Proper etiquette for weddings is to send a thank you note within two months of your wedding. But, thank you cards for your wedding gifts may be written as soon as they arrive. With wedding registries so prevalent, many modern brides receive the majority of their gifts in the weeks leading up to their wedding date – and it sounds like you are no exception. This is the perfect opportunity to get a head start on your thank you notes.
If you would prefer to send them after the wedding, photo thank you notes are a great option! Be sure to ask your photographer to send a few select photos immediately after the wedding, so you can order your thank you notes, write and address, and mail out to your guests in a timely manner.
I hope this helps!
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