I always planned to change my name whenever I married – I wanted to have the same last name as my children, be a unified couple, and follow tradition. But after all of the work I put into my wedding day, I’m ready to relax! I don’t want to spend a lot of time and stress going through the legal process of taking on my spouse’s name. And to add to that, it will be tough to let everyone at work know. Is changing my last name really necessary in this day and age?
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Changing your name is a choice every bride faces, and it’s not an easy choice to make. I can’t offer a definitive yes or no for this question, because it truly is a personal decision. I recommend you have a frank discussion with your spouse about this choice, and think about how you identify yourself in regards to your last name.
From what you wrote in, it seems as though you want to change your name – you just don’t want to do the work! Well, it’s a fairly easy process if you handle it correctly. Most of the work comes after you’ve filed the appropriate paperwork, and start the process of updating your accounts and records.
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If you have decided to go forward with changing your name, take the stress out of the legal process by reminding yourself of the fun that comes along.
- Update your stationery! Treat yourself to notecards, address labels, and a notepad with your new moniker. It’s a fun way to get used to referring to yourself as the new Mrs., and it will help others adjust to your name as well.
- Set up a new email address (and be sure to forward emails sent to your old address).
- Share the news. Letting coworkers and friends know you’ve changed your last name should be a happy moment, allowing you a brief chance to share a detail or two about your wedding day.
And, just so you don’t forget the important changes that go along with a name change, here’s a quick list:
- Change your Social Security card
- Change your driver’s license at the DMV
- Update your bank accounts, credit cards, and checks
- Change other accounts (this includes your employer’s records, doctors’ records, insurance companies, and your passport, to name just a few!)
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