Today’s Diva Dish came from a Facebook fan who’s getting ready to address her wedding invitations:
Ladies first, right? (names on the invites, that is).
We’re glad you asked, Angela. For most of the addressing that we have seen, this is actually not the case! Here’s what we recommend…
For married couples, it is typical to have the husband’s name first:
Formal (with titles): Mr. & Mrs. Patrick James
Casual: Patrick & Alyssa James
For unmarried couples, it is usually suggested that the person whom the couple is closest to is first.
If couple is closest to the male, or if couple is equally close to both people, the male name is usually first:
Formal: Mr. Javier Ramirez & Ms. Melinda Torres
Casual: Javier Ramirez & Melinda Torres
If couple is closest to female:
Formal: Ms. Jamie McGuff & Mr. Tony Pederson
Casual: Jamie McGuff & Tony Pederson
If guest’s name is unknown, then known name is always first:
Formal: Ms. Lindsey Quill & Guest
Casual: Lindsey Quill & Guest
If couple is choosing to include children and/or family, typically they will add the following when addressing the invitations:
Mr. & Mrs. Patrick Jones and family
We hope this helps. Happy envelope addressing!
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